Have you been studying how to manifest all that you want? Perhaps you have something specific in mind, such as a new car, and you’ve been using the law of attraction processes of imaging that you already have it, holding the feeling of owning and enjoying that car you want, and cultivating an expectation and belief that since you can see it in your mind’s eye, that means it is real in the metaphysical plane and soon will be real in the physical plane.
However, given the fact that everyone I’ve ever met grew up with the advice that “seeing is believing,” it can be a challenge to hold your faith in the new car steady and strong enough for it to actually manifest.
Most of us wish for some kind of sign that it’s on the way, some hint that we’re not doing all this visualizing and affirming to no avail. We’ve been taught to be logical and rational, but the reasoning mind is our enemy when we are in manifestation mode. It looks all around and grumbles, “You’re an idiot falling for that law of attraction stuff—where’s the car?!”
What if you could learn to detect the signs that your manifestation actually is on the way? That would be a big help, wouldn’t it? It would give encouragement, and help you keep going with the process. The worst enemy to our manifestations is doubt, and the fear that somehow this is never going to work, not for us, not in this lifetime.
So let’s look at the signs:
- First sign is that you will feel happier! This is a wonderful sign because it shows you are vibrating at a higher level. We have to elevate our frequency to get what we want; otherwise, we continue getting the junk that matched our old, lower energy frequency.
- You’ll start seeing that new car, in the color you want, seemingly around every corner as you go about your day. Your connection with that car is now in growing harmony, so that source within you is manipulating your turns and the other driver’s turns, and the events of your day so that you will be in the right place at the exact right moment to see that beloved car. Use these sightings to bolster your visualizations and expectancy. Some people take the opposite tack, and seeing others driving “their” new car evokes feelings of anger and frustration—which, of course, makes their energy vibration take a nose dive off the frequency where the manifestation was humming along.
- Another car will be offered to you, or come into your experience, such as a friend asking if he can park his car in your garage while he’s on a business trip. At first, this might seem like a slap in the face and a rejection of your manifestation wish, but it is a sign that you are bringing a car into your life. It’s on the way. This other car arriving at your house is a sign of the change in progress.
Too often, we misread those signs because we were never taught how the process works. What if a friend called and said you could have their old car for five hundred dollars and it’s better than the one you’ve been driving. You might mistake that offer as being a sign you’ll never get that new car, and that you might as well take your friend up on the used car deal.
Metaphysical author and teacher Florence Scovel Shinn tells the story in one of her books about a woman who was trying to manifest a new set of china dishes, and was given a broken plate, which she thought was the answer to her manifesting processes. Shinn explained that it was simply a sign the dishes were on the way, and to bless that broken plate and be grateful for it, to keep the energy frequency high in the final stages of manifestation. Her client followed the advice and soon thereafter was gifted with a beautiful set of china.
When you seek too hard for signs, it can evoke a sense of discouragement. Far better to enjoy the process, enjoy the new feeling of happiness and lightness of being, and simply allow your new car (or dishes or soulmate) to show up in the perfect way and at the perfect time.
One of the core principles of using the law of attraction to our advantage instead of unconsciously magnetizing results that we don’t really like or want, is to understand the power of focusing our thoughts so that we appreciate what we want to experience even before we get it.
When we enter into a practice of being appreciative of all that we already have, we set up an internal vibration that brings us into harmony with a higher quality of circumstances. We thus draw those conditions and circumstances and relationships into our life, simply by being grateful. And then, to take the practice even further, if we start being grateful in advance for all that we desire, being thankful we have already received it, the law of attraction will match our energy with what we want to get.
Here’s an excerpt from my book GET HAPPY TODAY: No More Excuses! that explains more about building up an attitude of gratitude.
Chapter 5 – Action Steps: Cultivate gratitude
- Don’t expect yourself to be a magical mystical being who doesn’t have fear and who dances through life with a song on your lips every moment of every day. That’s not what being “happy no matter what” means. Happiness is an intention to accept the ups and downs with good humor.
- Be grateful for every chance to love someone who is, at this point in time, acting in an unlovable way. Isn’t that what love is all about?
- There’s no mystery to how I went quickly from panic to acceptance in the dentist chair. But there is indeed a secret that I will share with you, and here it is: I used gratitude as my path.
- Make gratitude a habit in your daily life. It works.
- From now on, in everything you do, even the mundane tasks, find ways to say to yourself, “I am grateful for this situation because…” Try it. With practice, it leads you to feel more empowered about your life. As well as happier.
I took an informal survey to find out what most people are stressed about these days–and it’s no surprise to me that the #1 answer is MONEY! Small business owners worry how they are going to meet payroll and vendor bills, parents worry how they will afford their kids’ education or their own retirement, entrepreneurs worry how they will replace their previous income while building their new business, and everybody seems to be worrying how to enjoy life when they can’t seem to reach their money goals.
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Chronic stress affects everything in your life: your relationships, your job satisfaction, your health, and your sense of personal fulfillment. It’s important to find ways to get your stress level down to a manageable level, but usually when someone is filled with anxiety, and the bills are piling up, it can be hard to consider that relief could be just a thought away. However, that is true, and the reason is that we become what we think about. The more you think about your money worries, the more worries will flood to you, because they are in harmony with whatever your focus of attention is, and you attract more of the same.
There’s a way out, and it’s a simple three-step process that you can practice right now, use as often as you’d like, and share with family and friends. Here’s what you do:
- Breathe in slowly through your nose to the silent count of four, then hold your breath to the count of four, and slowly exhale through your mouth to the count of four. Your stress hormones will settle down instead of firing up even more panic. Repeat a few times until you feel a bit calmer. Understand what you are seeking is a sense of relief so that your mind is open to the next step in this process.
- Bring to mind the outcome that you desire. Perhaps there is a specific amount of money that would bring great relief to you at this time. Imagine how it would feel if that money was in your bank account, and that even after paying the bills, there would be a delightful surplus of funds available to you. How would it feel? Did your shoulders just drop a little? Maybe you didn’t even realize how tensed you’ve been, and how tightly you’ve been holding your body. Shake your arms, wriggle around, signal your body and mind that change is coming. Keep that feeling of relief in your thoughts and bask in how wonderful it feels now the money stress has vanished.
- While holding that feeling of relief, and visualizing yourself smiling at your employees or coworkers and enjoying a few high-fives because you have turned a financial corner, consider an action step you can take in the next five minutes that will lead you toward your success. It might be making a phone call you’ve been putting off because it felt uncomfortable and you worried how the other person would react to you. Go do it now. Successful people make it a habit to do the things they know must be done, even when they don’t really want to do those things. They put the success of the business or project first, and step into the required action. That means, whatever is on your list that you’ve been avoiding even though you know it’s important, contains the seeds to the success and money freedom you desire. But nothing will happen if the bright ideas just stay on paper and never see the light of day.
When you are stuck in a worry and stress mode, that zone of fear will keep you paralyzed. Use the three steps above, take an action, keep visualizing your success and feel it as being real. Think of what you want, not what you don’t want. That’s the key to changing your results.
Most of us learned an upside down and backwards approach to life–we learned to look around us and pay attention to what everyone else is doing and saying, and then react to that. We are now learning a much better way of living, from an inside-outward perspective, but it takes a commitment to your own happiness. Why? Because the training is so deeply ingrained in all of us to think the old way that it is habitual. We learn to set goals and work hard and keep our noses to the grindstone, and try our very best to force the results we want.
Here’s an easier and more delightful way: get very clear on what you want, align yourself with the feeling that it is already true in your life, and allow what you desire to flow into your life.
Yes of course it takes practice and persistence. But it is worth it–YOU are worth it. If you’re ready to start living a life that feels joyful and satisfying, learn the 5 steps for your quantum leap in my book YOU WERE BORN TO TRIUMPH: Create a Five-Start Life in Your Quantum Kitchen.
If you’ve ever woken up and groaned softly to yourself, thinking not-so-kindly about the day ahead, then there’s something important missing in your life–and I think I know what it is…
Passion for your own journey!
If your thoughts revolve around the household, the job, the family’s needs…the chores to be done, the errands to be run, the schedules to be kept as orderly and organized as possible–then you are missing out on the key ingredient of a joyful life. Passion.
Yes, that’s the missing link for many people, because from early childhood most of us were taught things like “Be practical,” “Think it through before you make a decision,” and even things like “What will the neighbors think if you do that?”
If you learned to play it safe, I’ve got good news for you: you can ditch the old rule book starting today, and begin truly living a life that is bursting with satisfaction, fulfillment, and personal growth. Why is growth important? Because without it, you’ll stay stuck and the only thing in the world that doesn’t strive for growth is an old rock that’s stuck in the mud of a river bank. Everything else around is is growing, striving to expand, to create more Life.
Parents, a special caution for you, because if you’re moaning and groaning about your life, what is the lesson you are teaching your children? Unfortunately, you’re modeling behavior that they’ll probably imitate later on, even if they make a conscious decision to do otherwise. Remember all the times when you were a teen and vowed “I’ll never be like my parents!” and then as you got older, married, started a family, those trigger points were hit like a hot button, and you reacted from your old training.
There are over 400 articles at my site, and lots of products and e-course programs I’ve created, so I hope you’ll look around and enjoy a new perspective on your life.
If you’re ready to start creating big quantum leaps in your life and zoom ahead to happier results, believe that you can do it. I know you can!
Have you ever wished for someone in your life who completely and unconditionally believed in you? Someone, who, no matter what bright idea you had or what you had done that wasn’t your best, always had your back? Always smiled and saw the “real” you who is capable of so much?
Most people never have that kind of relationship with anyone. We live in a society that rewards snide remarks and cutting comments with a laugh track on TV sitcoms. Where one-upping someone by being nasty, rude, or curt in return is considered an acceptable way to put people in their place and not let them walk all over you.
The person who comes to my mind as someone who always believed in me and thought I was just great no matter what I was up to over the years, was my Aunt Anne–my mother’s sister. Now, Anne has been gone many years, but I have a wonderful memory bank overflowing with all the times she was supportive. I didn’t see her very often, because we never lived in the same state, let alone the same city, but despite the lack of e-mail and texting back then, we managed to have a very special relationship. Perhaps it was actually helped by that “distance” in that she wasn’t my parent, or someone so closely involved in my daily life that she couldn’t remain objective. Often we need that clear eye of someone who loves us, cares about us, wants us to be happy and healthy.
A specific incident with my aunt was many years ago, at my brother’s funeral. My family was living in Texas (where I was born) and she flew from Utah to be with us after he died. During the funeral mass, I happened to be standing next to her, on her left-hand side in the church pew. As if it was just moments ago, I can feel the pressure of my little hand in hers as I clung to her for strength. Flash-forward at least 40 years, and she commented one time during a Thanksgiving dinner when several family members had gathered from various states to be together, and she said to me and my three older sisters that she recalled the funeral and that one of us had squeezed her hand so tight that she knew it was really important not to let go. I admitted that hand-squeezer had been nine-year-old me. She had been a lifeline for me during that hard time, and continued to be someone who believed in me completely, up until the moment of her own death many years later just before the turn of the century into 2000.
In case you don’t have someone like that in your own life–someone who never raises their voice, never criticizes, condemns, mocks or undermines you–I want you to know that I am here for you. I see greatness in you. I know that you came here with a huge purpose in your heart and soul: to create more love, joy, and expansion in the world by thinking up ideas and then bringing them into reality with the incredible power of your emotionalized thoughts.
PS By the way, a story I wrote about a different incident at my brother’s funeral is featured in the new anthology “Unwavering Strength: Stories to Inspire You Through Challenging Times.” Don’t buy it now. Wait until Sept 30 for the launch so you’ll get a massive array of gifts from the co-authors and supporters of the project.
It can be really stressful to be a business owner. And there’s a special kind of added stress if you are in business with your spouse!
Whether you are in the planning stage of a new business that you will run together with your mate, or you’ve been operating a family business for years, you are probably already aware that there can be perils to all that togetherness. As someone who was the “mom” part of a home-based construction company for over twenty years, I am pleased to share with you some of the tricks to keep the romance in your marriage while building a thriving business together.
• Decide up front how many hours each of you will devote to the business on a weekly basis. Keep in mind that if one of you will also have the responsibilities of homemaking and caring for children or elderly parents who live with you, those hours of work count, too, toward the whole.
• Talk it over with your tax advisor before selecting the form of business you will operate: sole proprietorship, LLC (Limited Liability Corporation), corporation, or other entity. At first it might seem totally fair that if your husband is the one who will be out making the deals and meeting with clients, while you stay at home working part-time in the business as the bookkeeper and manager, that it’s no big deal if the business is a sole proprietorship in his name. Think it through, and anticipate if you will still be happy being invisible as the business grows and you take a larger role in administration. Also decide how salaries and wages will be paid to each of you.
• Establish a “date night” each week, preferably for dinner outside the home and not just sprawling on the couch in front of television. Keep the romance alive. As your budget allows, hire a babysitter or trade with other parents in your neighborhood who would like a weekly date night, too. Here’s the secret to making this actually work toward keeping your marriage and romance alive: no discussing business during your date! Seriously, it will feel so tempting to catch up on projects, client updates, brainstorm new business ideas. After all, you’re finally in the car together or on the subway, eating in a restaurant or diner, and it seems almost like a waste of valuable business-owner-time to not spend at least part of your evening on catching up. But make it a strict rule, and keep to it.
• Instead of allowing business to encroach on personal time together, set up a weekly status meeting for business projects. Depending on whether both of you are working in your home office, or one of you is out in the field, try to schedule this for daytime hours, perhaps during Friday lunch time. Just as you keep your date night for refreshing your romance, make this business meeting strictly about issues involving the projects you are working on together as mom-and-pop.
• You may wish to also schedule phone calls with each other in a businesslike way when it involves the business, and not just call to chat and then “Oh by the way…” and rattle off a lot of business-related items. Text or call and agree on a time to go over necessary updates, and also for practical home-related tasks like cleaning the garage, fixing the dishwasher, scheduling a car repair. The separation between business and home life is critical in order to not have an unhealthy shift where all you ever talk about is chores and business, and it runs together so that each of you secretly dreads talking to the other because every call turns into an ordeal.
• When your focus is on building a business, it can be tempting to overlook holidays, three-day weekends, and vacations. After all, when you’re keeping the business thriving, it’s hard to get away, and if business isn’t thriving, you want to stay there and drum up new clients. But that Catch-22 will sap your energy, and make you both wonder why it once seemed a great idea to have a family business.
• Take time for your own activities and hobbies, and quickly discuss any resentments or upsets that arise when one person feels overworked while the other still manages to find free time. Work these things out while the issues are small and manageable. As the old saying goes, Never go to bed angry at each other. That includes not going to bed with a resentment that you are nurturing but feel afraid to bring up. Honest communication is the cornerstone of any healthy mom-and-pop establishment, whether you have an office or storefront you go to, or you both work at home.
• Keep up your social life with outside friends, not just business associates, so that you can enjoy the occasional movies or dinner out with other people and talk about topics besides business.
No matter what your work is, it’s important to keep a balance in your life between business and personal goals. Following the tips above should help you keep the lines of communication open with your business partner so that both your marriage and your venture can thrive.
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Feeling overwhelmed and stressed by your home-based business? If you are new to having a business office at home, it’s vital to understand that the productivity practices you may have followed in the corporate or retail world with your former job just don’t cut it when you’re at home all day, with family and business demands around-the-clock. Here’s how to get things going in a healthy, low-stress way, culled from my over thirty years’ of owning and operating businesses based at home.
- Set up a separate office area for your new business or venture. Even if the only thing you do is create a screen by stapling fabric to stretcher bars from the arts and crafts store, hide that desk from view once you are on family or personal time. Otherwise, the mental separation between business and home life can be difficult to establish. At first it will probably seem harmless to have your business sprawl all over your living space, but you’ll soon feel like you just can’t get away from office work the way you could when you got up from a desk or closed your locker at work and waved goodbye to everyone, heading home for some down-time. Even if you occasionally have projects that require you to work longer hours, make sure to keep that dividing line between office and home, particularly if you have set up your work area in the bedroom. When you are wishing to relax at the end of the day, the worst thing to have in front of you is a pile of work that seems to scream at you and criticize you for not working hard enough.
- Schedule your day. Get an agenda or appointment book that is big enough to write activities for both your home and business. It can be tempting to have separate books, one for personal appointments and one for the business, but in my experience, at least, it can become easy to overlook a conflict in your schedule or to inadvertently miss an important meeting. If you use a smart phone or tablet, you may wish to use an online calendar that will keep all your devices up to date. But otherwise, the old-fashioned way of writing in a daily/monthly appointment book will work great. Block out time for working on projects at your desk or in the field, depending on what type of business you have. Avoid the common mistake of thinking that you’ll “find time for what’s important”—time has a mysterious way of vanishing and the hours quickly fill up with minor tasks so that more important work gets shoved off to another day. Post a wall calendar each month that contains daily squares that are large enough for all family members to jot their major activities, so you don’t inadvertently overlook something crucial when you’re making your business appointments. This might seem like an obvious tip, but when you start feeling pulled by the demands of living in your office and having an office in your living space, you’ll find detailed schedules will help keep you sane.
- Get in the habit of separating the chores related to business from the tasks of housekeeping. It takes discipline to do this, but it can be done, and you’ll find more harmony in all areas of your life when you create this kind of balance. Decide each weekend what the most important projects in the coming workdays will be, both for your business success and your happy family. Being super-organized about what your commitments are to both home and business will serve you well in the long-run. It can be very tempting to go from your office area to the kitchen to do a few chores or whisk up a batch of brownies, then rush back to your desk to dash off some emails or make a few calls, but scattered focus will not serve you well. You’ll feel exhausted and resentful, as if your day has no end. Learn how to close your office area down in the evening and whatever hours on the weekend you have decided are for personal activities. A home-based business can become an octopus with its tentacles creeping into every minute of your day if you allow it. Remind yourself that when you were away at a job outside the home, you didn’t interrupt your focus on a project to go do laundry, or see what’s happening on your favorite soap opera. Continue a business-like attitude toward your new home-based operations, and you’ll feel more professional.
- If your business is brand new, decide in advance how many hours you want to devote to the business itself, and keep that commitment, changing it only as you want to, and not because the whole thing has gotten out of hand and demands more of your time than you planned to give it. Keep track of your work hours, so that you can see if you are interrupting business time with snacks, chores, TV, and inadvertently making your business day seem inflated.
- If you have a business partner, such as a roommate or spouse, discuss these productivity tips together, and make decisions as a team about how many hours each of you will devote daily to the projects and tasks each of you are handling. An imbalance in workload breeds resentments and strife. In addition, if one person feels that business calls and needs trump personal life every time, it’s better to find that out up front, and decide on a plan of action. Without a plan in place, it’s all too easy for you to become a slave to a growing business’s incessant demands for 24/7 attention. You may need to compromise on issues such as when do you stop answering the business line in the evening, and start again in the morning. What do you do when clients call at dinner time. These and similar issues sound like they will not be a problem, when they haven’t happened yet, but when clients habitually phone after regular office hours because now they are home from their own office job, you need a plan in place of whether you ignore calls, screen them via voice mail and only return the most important, or whether you take the calls no matter what time of day or day of the week it is.
- As soon as your budget allows, have a separate phone for your business. You might want to have a smart phone so that as your business grows, you can communicate easily via text messages, and manage your email communications while out of the office. It will give you freedom to be able to pick up the kids from school, go to the bank and post office, take care of personal and business errands, while remaining in contact with clients, customers and any business partners you may have. With a separate business phone, you can put that in the charger on silent mode during your downtime so you aren’t leaping to respond every time it rings.
A home-based business offers many advantages, including being home for children and pets, and enjoying your home environment without the added expense of a separate office location. Become the master of your business, no matter where it is located, and it will serve you well.
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