Although advice books have been around for centuries, it wasn’t until the 1980s that the “self-help” books phenomenon was launched, and we haven’t looked back. Everywhere we turn, we can find advice (from people like me) to think positive, to create affirmations that support what you want, to visualize the wish fulfilled in order to attract your dreams to you. And yet, even with all the wonderful suggestions, we seem to be walking around in a daze a lot of the time, frustrated that the affirmations aren’t working, the great ideas aren’t coming to pass, and life just isn’t that bowl of cherries we had in mind.
So what’s going on? Here’s an explanation I think you’ll find easy to understand–it’s from Abraham-Hicks–and then I’ll give some examples of how we can use this information to change our results:
“Law of Attraction says, ‘That which is like unto itself is drawn.’ Vibrations are always matched. So, as you experience the contrast which inspires the new desire, this new desire, whether it is a strong one or a soft one, is summoning unto itself proportionately. And as it summons, it is always answered. It is the basis of our Universe: When it is asked, it is always given. Humans think they are asking with their words, or even with their action — and sometimes you are — but the Universe is not responding to your words or your action. The Universe is responding to your vibrational calling.”
Okay, now let’s see how we can do more than just nod at another nice quotation such as we see in our emails or on Facebook and Twitter and it glides right past us instead of helping us create change. Let’s look at a few things that are commonly desired, and see what we can do about our “vibrational calling” to magnetize the results we do want to experience instead of a mashup.
I WANT: I want new friends, please send me some nice people to hang out with, where it will be a reciprocal friendship and we enjoy being together supporting each other’s dreams and sharing a lot of laughter and fun, too.
VIBRATIONAL CALLING: I’m lonely!… Send me more loneliness to match what I’m feeling…
I WANT: I want to experience love and harmony and joy in my relationship (or attract a new romance), I want this to be a relationship overflowing with goodwill and love for each other, and lots of happiness too, as we go through life together.
VIBRATIONAL CALLING: Hey, isn’t there somebody out there for me to love who will love me back? I’m so tired of feeling unloved. Send me more experiences that make me feel unloved and unwanted…
I WANT: I want the experience financial freedom and the relief of knowing I have all the money I want and need to do what I want in the world for myself and others.
VIBRATIONAL CALLING: Yoo-hoo! Have ya noticed how broke I am! I really could use some money, okay? I mean, there’s tons of money out there so please please please send some my way. I’m really scared that I can’t pay the bills this month.
Okay, you see the pattern, right? We affirm a beautiful statement, but inside that agitation over not having what we want –and probably we’ve wanted it for a long time, so that nervousness has built up to a toxic level — that negativity is what is really calling out to the field of infinite possibilities and asking for it to MATCH our feeling and send us matching results.
The key is to watch our emotions, not with an eagle eye to judge ourselves or scold ourselves, but with the goal of gently shifting to what we want. Keep it light, keep it easy, keep it positive, and you’ll notice the change inside first. You’ll feel more comfortable with yourself. Things won’t irritate you or worry you as quickly. You’ll have more control over how you interact with your surroundings and other people. You’ll learn to respond thoughtfully, mindfully, instead of having the more typical knee-jerk reactions to things that seem upsetting.