One of the most stressful things that we do to ourselves is to have a constantly busy mind — thinking about what happened yesterday (and how we would do it differently if only we could have a “do-over”) and about what might happen later on today or tomorrow (fretting over the details, too, and analyzing what the possible outcome would be if you did “this” thing instead of the other one).
An active mind that whirs along like a hamster in its wheel might seem at first to be very busy and productive — but what are you actually accomplishing? You are probably producing a lot of stress with all the regrets for the past and worries about the future.
Am I right?
It takes discipline to put the reins on your thoughts and make them work for you in a healthy way, instead of being “stress factories.”
An easy way to start that discipline is to remind yourself: Be where your feet are.
Fully engage your mind in the activity in front of you. Train your thoughts to let go of past mistakes — you can’t change even one second of the past, so look back on it now and then only as part of an overall assessment of your life, so you can see how far you’ve come. Reflecting on the past can also help avoid mistakes in the present. But in general, when you keep your mind focused on the “Now” you avoid a lot of stress in your relationships because you will not bring up old issues as ammunition. If someone else starts doing that to you, gently remind them: “Hey, let’s both be where our feet are — and not dredge up old things that hurt! Let’s talk about what’s happening Now.”
Until tomorrow, from your happiness guru,