Weekend Be-Happier Tip #23


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Be where your feet are.

One of the most stressful things that we do to ourselves is to have a constantly busy mind — thinking about what happened yesterday (and how we would do it differently if only we could have a “do-over”) and about what might happen later on today or tomorrow (fretting over the details, too, and analyzing what the possible outcome would be if you did “this” thing instead of the other one).

An active mind that whirs along like a hamster in its wheel might seem at first to be very busy and productive — but what are you actually accomplishing?  You are probably producing a lot of stress with all the regrets for the past and worries about the future.

Am I right?

It takes discipline to put the reins on your thoughts and make them work for you in a healthy way, instead of being “stress factories.”

An easy way to start that discipline is to remind yourself:   Be where your feet are.

Fully engage your mind in the activity in front of you. Train your thoughts to let go of past mistakes — you can’t change even one second of the past, so look back on it now and then only as part of an overall assessment of your life, so you can see how far you’ve come. Reflecting on the past can also help avoid mistakes in the present. But in general, when you keep your mind focused on the “Now” you avoid a lot of stress in your relationships because you will not bring up old issues as ammunition.  If someone else starts doing that to you, gently remind them:  “Hey, let’s both be where our feet are — and not dredge up old things that hurt! Let’s talk about what’s happening Now.”

Until tomorrow, from your happiness guru,

Evelyn

Comments (6)

Melanie Kissell

June 4, 2010

Wonderful and good healthy advice, Evelyn.

I've said this a hundred times and I'll say it a hundred more ...

All the yesterdays are canceled checks. They're already written and they've already cleared. Those transactions are over and done with.

Your post reminds me of what a psychotherapist once shared with me. Dr. Poulter said, "Look down at your feet. That's exactly where you want to be." So if you're unhappy and you don't want to be where you are in life, get your feet moving!

Sometimes the greatest benefit we can get from the day is just being still -- even if it's only for 10 minutes. We need a chance to block out all the noise (in our busy minds) and simply breathe -- just focusing on the coolness of the air as we breathe in and the warmth of the air as we breathe out. It does wonders!

Thanks for visiting my blog today,
Melanie
#blog30

Melanie Kissell

June 4, 2010

Wonderful and good healthy advice, Evelyn.

I've said this a hundred times and I'll say it a hundred more ...

All the yesterdays are canceled checks. They're already written and they've already cleared. Those transactions are over and done with.

Your post reminds me of what a psychotherapist once shared with me. Dr. Poulter said, "Look down at your feet. That's exactly where you want to be." So if you're unhappy and you don't want to be where you are in life, get your feet moving!

Sometimes the greatest benefit we can get from the day is just being still -- even if it's only for 10 minutes. We need a chance to block out all the noise (in our busy minds) and simply breathe -- just focusing on the coolness of the air as we breathe in and the warmth of the air as we breathe out. It does wonders!

Thanks for visiting my blog today,
Melanie
#blog30

Evelyn Brooks

June 4, 2010

Wonderful response, Melanie and thanks for taking the time to write.
Btw, I love your dog. My Golden-- "Peaches"-- died 4 months ago and I still miss her.
Evelyn

Evelyn Brooks

June 4, 2010

Wonderful response, Melanie and thanks for taking the time to write.
Btw, I love your dog. My Golden-- "Peaches"-- died 4 months ago and I still miss her.
Evelyn

Corrie Petersen

June 6, 2010

That's a wonderful tip Evelyn. I do that a lot. Sometimes I'm so into my thoughts that I don't hear what is going on around me. I also get that way when I'm looking at Twitter or Facebook. I'm so involved in thinking that I don't even hear the radio in the background.

I'll give your tip a try and see how hard it is to make it work. I suppose it's just like anything else. If you put your mind to it, you can make it happen. Might take some time, but I bet it will work and things will be so much better when it happens.

Thanks again for sharing.

Corrie Petersen

June 6, 2010

That's a wonderful tip Evelyn. I do that a lot. Sometimes I'm so into my thoughts that I don't hear what is going on around me. I also get that way when I'm looking at Twitter or Facebook. I'm so involved in thinking that I don't even hear the radio in the background.

I'll give your tip a try and see how hard it is to make it work. I suppose it's just like anything else. If you put your mind to it, you can make it happen. Might take some time, but I bet it will work and things will be so much better when it happens.

Thanks again for sharing.

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