One of the key elements of leading a happy life is learning how to handle disappointments, rejections, and all the other things that don’t go the way you wanted.
It probably would be easier if we went through life with a blank mind as far as expectations and hopes are concerned. That way, we’d greatly reduce the power of disappointment.
But it’s natural to work on a project that’s important to you and hope that it will turn out great, or to strive to win an athletic event and put everything you’ve got into it. Even when you get skilled at reducing your expectations of a particular outcome, there are still things that happen in life that are really hard to cope with.
What’s on your list of disappointments?
It’s good to acknowledge the hurt feelings, but watch out for the negative tendency to label yourself as a failure because of this incident. Thoughts like “I knew I couldn’t do it,” “I should’ve known better,” or “Why did I even try!” can send you into a dark cycle that’s hard to get out of.
Far better to adopt the attitude that life is full of lessons. Even when you don’t get the result or “win” that you hoped for, this, too, holds a lesson. Learn what you can improve for the next time. Realize this is not a personal judgment that “You” are a failure but simply that this project flopped. And now keep moving. Pick the next thing to work on and keep going forward. Don’t let this stumbling block be the thing that stops you from growing.
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