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Look for the miracles in your life

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“Where there is great love, there are always miracles.” ~ Willa Cather, American Author (1873-1947)

Do you feel short on miracles lately? Maybe you are focused too hard on the horizon, anticipating a magical time “in the future” when all the things you dislike about your present situation will have changed.

It’s well known that living in the now, or staying in the present moment, is the way to inner peace — and yet it’s so easy to slide into wishful thinking instead.

Right now, stop and look around you and begin counting miracles in your life.  I bet that with only a few minutes of concentration, you’ll find dozens of incredible things to be thankful for!  And that attitude of gratitude will lift you up and make the stress drop away from your shoulders.

Try it — I think you’ll like it.

To learn more about the principles of the Law of Attraction, why not click here and see what I learned from my favorite teacher – Bob

to your happiness and success,

Evelyn Brooks

PS Tomorrow I’ll tell you all about an amazing self-help giveaway event that only happens twice a year — I’m giving away lots of gifts, and so are other experts in the field of health, success, wellness and wealth. So, stay tuned!

Be-Happier Tip: stop and smell the weeds

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You’ve probably heard it before, the advice to “stop and smell the roses.” But why only roses? What about all the other things going on in your life that might not be as pretty or sweet as a rose?

Too often, we can get stressed out thinking that life should be all about finding perfection, and getting the best that’s possible. Many are discontented because they drive an older car or they can’t afford to get the newest styles that are advertised in magazines and promoted in the stores. They look with envy at those who have “more” and as a result feel totally stressed and unhappy.

So take a few moments and look at your “weeds” – those things in your life that you feel don’t quite measure up. Maybe they are better than you think!  Did you ever notice that a dandelion blossom is actually a very pretty little yellow flower, quite similar to the gazanias that are sold in nursery centers? But since dandelions spread easily — all those puffy balls of seeds you see on lawns — we call them weeds.

What do you under-appreciate in your life? Is it a relationship? Is it a houseful of goods that you have grown tired of because they aren’t brand new anymore?

The other day, a neighbor’s house caught fire and in a very rapid blaze, half of the house was destroyed. Do you want to bet whether they would like to have back their old living room furniture, just the way it was? Of course they do.

Feeling happy about what you have doesn’t mean you lose motivation to reach your goals. In fact, it does the opposite, because you free up all that energy that went toward grousing about your life.

to your happiness,

Evelyn Brooks

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Do’s and Don’ts of Saying I’m Sorry

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It might seem at a glance that it’s a great thing to say “I’m sorry” in your relationship. But as with most things in life, there are helpful and not so helpful ways to go about it.  See more in a prior post on the topic of apologizing

Here are a few suggestions to follow the next time you feel you were in the wrong.

DO’s

  • Own up to your own behavior
  • Keep it simple and short (KISS)
  • Explain what you will do to make amends, if there was damage done
  • Declare your intention to behave differently in future situations that are similar to the one where you erred

DONT’s

  • Avoid the codependent trap of saying you’re sorry with the goal of controlling the other person’s anger
  • Watch out if you have a pattern of apologizing constantly and automatically – that’s a sign you are behaving in a codependent way, trying to offset the other person’s reaction by taking blame for things they do
  • Don’t get into long explanations and excuses for what you did wrong. Short and to the point is always the best approach, and you thus avoid digging a deeper hole for yourself where you invite criticism and blame
  • Accept responsibility
  • Be accountable without taking on a burden of shame

The healthy habit of apologizing for your mistakes can help you to grow emotionally and be more comfortable in your own life. The point is not to get the other person’s approval, but rather to behave in a mature and responsible way in every area of your life. The person you apologize to might actually get angry about it and mock you for apologizing, or try to make you feel guilty for a whole list of other things they want to dump on you.

Stick to your simple script and repeat what you apologized for. You can state the same phrase or sentence again, word for word, or give a minor variation of it, but don’t get suckered into apologizing for being alive.

Go ahead and be a broken record: “I’m sorry for what I did earlier (name it specifically) – that’s not how I want to behave and I intend to do better from now on.” More on how to be a broken record (and why that’s a good thing) in the next post.

your happiness guru,

Evelyn Brooks

Be-Happier Tip: stop procrastinating

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Is there something you really want to do, and yet you keep putting it off? That push-pull feeling inside keeps you stressed out!  Your heart yearns to get in there and get the job done, yet something in your mind is putting on the brakes.  Get in touch with your secret wishes, and blast off!  Do something each day toward your special goal. You will find the stress melting away as you focus your main energy on your dreams.

Of course all of us still have chores, errands, tasks we don’t want to do. Learn to streamline them. Get rid of clutter so there is less mess to pick up. Get yourself in habit of finding time each day for what is really important to you — and then do it!

Let go of the procrastination demon that keeps you stuck in fear.

your happiness guru,

Evelyn

Be-Happier Tip: turn desperation into celebration

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When your shoulders sag because you are overwhelmed with all the details of a busy life, take time to celebrate all that’s great about it!

A simple shift in your attitude from feeling stressed to feeling blessed will  help you to enjoy your life more.

Have you read my new book yet?  You’ll learn the exact steps to take to switch your desperate emotions around so you can be happier now. It’s called “Get Happy Today: Your Path to Lifelong Happiness” — you can order the paperback at amazon or get instant download there for your Kindle.  Get instant access to the ebook (no shipping charges and the price is lower) at my site GetHappyToday.com See you there! Click the book cover below. :-)

Your happiness guru,
Evelyn