How to Say YES to Your B-HAG

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How to Say YES to Your B-HAG

This project to return His Holiness the Dalai Lama to Tibet sprang from an idea I had one morning in January 2016, seemingly out of the blue. As soon as I got the idea, I knew it was a fantastic one—a “B-HAG”…a Big Hairy Audacious Goal.


What do you do with an idea that big? Most of us have been trained early on in life to immediately push such an idea away. We’ve been taught it’s better to be safe than sorry, that it’s not up to us to try to change the world, and we probably couldn’t pull it off anyway.


Thank goodness not everyone listens to that old voice from generations of living small and predictable lives, because we’d all still be hunkering down in caves, huts and trees. Think about life without all the modern conveniences and communication we take for granted. The grocery stores crammed with food selections, the entertainment, books, art, music. The list is a long one, and you can add to it, I’m sure.


Here’s what you do to say YES to your own B-HAG.


Think about it, imagine what life would be like for yourself and others if it came true.


And then, drum roll please, simply say, “Yes.”


That’s all it takes. A single word: Yes.


You don’t have to know how you are going to do it, you don’t have to know who is going to help you or where the money will come from or what steps you’ll need to take to make it so. You also don’t have to give thought energy to those you fear will criticize you or mock you or fail to support you in this venture.


All you have to do is thank the idea for coming to you, and immediately make it welcome with your “yes.”


After that, you’ll be amazed how quickly things will begin happening, as if you are now at the heart of a vortex, calling in more ideas, the right people, all that’s necessary for the fulfillment of your idea.


Because, you see, that is how we are meant to live. We came to Earth as spiritual beings seeking adventures in creating. But then helpful people like parents, teachers, friends and neighbors, poured all the restrictions of a condition-based life that they had learned into our thinking process, and it’s like putting a ball and chain on every good idea that comes to you.  We learn to live cautiously and only do what we are pretty darned certain we can manage to do.


How about it? My B-HAG, in case you haven’t guessed, is returning the Dalai Lama to Tibet. Because I understand the laws of the mind, when the idea came to me I knew at once that it meant I would be the one to fulfill the idea –but I had to say “yes.”   Not “Yes, but I’m not even Buddhist so I’m not qualified.”  Not, “Yes, but my friends and family will think I’ve finally flipped.” Simply: “Yes.


I didn’t use a stopwatch, but I know that I said “Yes” on the next in-breath.


How many “Yes buts” have you gotten comfortable with in your own life? Saying “Yes, but” puts the brakes on. It’s a way of diminishing confidence in ourselves and our dreams. Getting what we want really doesn’t work the way we’ve all been taught and that we put into practice with ideas small and large by saying to ourselves:


  • “Oh, that’s a great idea! I’ll give it my best shot for a few weeks and see how it goes.”


  • “Fantastic idea—I’ll call a few friends and see what they think.”


  • “Wonderful idea. I’ll weigh the pros and cons and then decided whether or not I should do it.”


Instead, think of your idea – you may need to first dust it off or polish it, if it has languished in the back of your heart and soul for a long time – and decide in favor of it. Say… YES.


I promise that Emerson’s words will come true for you, as they have for me:  “Once you make a decision, the universe conspires to make it happen.”