People-pleasers, part 2

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This is part 2 of a 2-part blog about “people-pleasers” which can be defined as the “disease of please”. See yesterday’s blog for part 1, which explains what people-pleasing is all about and how to recognize if you or someone you know is caught in this trap–  Click here.

Tips to stop being such a people-pleaser all the time:

  • Start recognizing how often you do everything for everybody else, while ignoring your own dreams and goals
  • Now that you see your pattern, make your own goals a priority, and do something every day that you like, even if someone else criticizes you for it
  • Learn how to say “no” when you want to say that. This is a biggie for people-pleasers, who have a lifelong habit of saying yes when they really are screaming “no” in their head. Practice saying “no” in less crucial areas of your life and less important matters, and build from there. The practice will give you courage to say no when it’s something important.
  • Forgive yourself if you slip into your old ways. You’re retraining an old habit and it takes time and persistence.
  • The key to making this work, and to shifting from being a people-pleaser to a strong, assertive, self-loving person, is to let go of your fear of not being liked or not getting approval.
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your happiness guru,

Evelyn Brooks

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