How Long Should You Keep Doing Something Fearful?

There are times in life when we really are afraid of doing something, and yet we bow to the logic of those around us and those who trained us in our thinking habits, and we go ahead with it anyway. Then we feel proud of ourselves for defeating the fear. But if it’s really been defeated, why is it there, in that swirling anxious feeling inside? Why does it return in the face of a similar project or condition? And then you’re supposed to defeat that too, and be proud again?


Let’s stop and look at how irrational much of our actions are in the face of working with the law of attraction to deliberately create an expansive, joyous, happy life. When you feel bad inside and take action anyway, you’re pretty much guaranteeing that something will go wrong. It might not be with that particular project—because we can often force results with sheer will power—but there will be repercussions in your life to match the energy of all that fear. Perhaps you’ll have a car accident on the way home from the meeting that engendered all that nervousness. Or catch the flu that’s going around and be violently ill for several weeks.


There’s a difference between wanting something very much with the understanding you’ll need to step out of what feels comfortable in order to attract it to you, and being terrified or uneasy because you really don’t want this at all.  It’s a false goal. One that others imposed on you and you accepted the burden.


Take a look at your life and see where you are using force to get things, force to make yourself go to a job that does not utilize your gifts, force to keep going through the motions in a dull relationship.


And then, make a new choice. Love and fear are opposites. Go for the love. It’s a great choice, every time.


In keeping with this lesson, Abraham-Hicks reminds us, “There are those that say, if you do the uncomfortable thing long enough, it will become comfortable. But we are really not encouragers of that. We are encouragers of coming into alignment, and then taking the action. We are encouragers always of getting rid of the fear; we would never want you to keep doing things that you feel fearful about. And maybe the path of least resistance is just not get on the horse. Maybe the path of least resistance is to get on a different horse—but we would never move forward in fear.”

What Is True Compassion?


We get confused between compassion for someone we like who is easy to get along with and loving, and a higher level of compassion that invites us to remain compassionate for all people, no matter how they behave. Often, the love and compassion we feel for our family members and spouse get tested when challenges arise, and we realize a lot of the things we believed about the other people were just part of a façade. Here is how the Dalai Lama explains compassion:


“True compassion is not just an emotional response but a firm commitment founded on reason. Therefore, a truly compassionate attitude towards others does not change even if they behave negatively.”


With our cultural emphasis on instant gratification, if the people around us don’t act the way we think they should, the relationship usually falters or the marriage ends in the divorce courts.  However, here is another way to look at compassion, from the perspective of learning our lessons in the real world. The Dalai Lama says, “I must emphasize again that merely thinking that compassion and reason and patience are good will not be enough to develop them. We must wait for difficulties to arise and then attempt to practice them. And who creates such opportunities? Not our friends, of course, but our enemies. They are the ones who give us the most trouble, so if we truly wish to learn, we should consider enemies to be our best teacher!”


Is there some person or situation in your life right now that is an opportunity for learning? It doesn’t mean we are supposed to stay in an abusive or unpleasant or detrimental relationship purely for the reason of practicing our principles of love and compassion in a difficult situation, but rather to use the situation for growth. I think it feels natural to want to shut the door on a bad relationship or experience, but take time to extract the lessons it came to teach you, and with this practice, you’ll find an easier way to detach from the pain and upset feelings.

What Does It Mean to Have Faith?

For many of us, we grew up being told that faith means believing in the unseen, and it was used as a way to explain why we should accept certain religious dogma and teachings without the proof that we were logically requesting. For many people, faith still is synonymous with their chosen religion. And for that reason, people of a more secular mindset will find themselves ignoring or pushing away lessons that include the words “have faith,” in the assumption the lesson is a religious teaching of some kind.


Faith is belief in the power of the universe, God, Source, Universal Mind, One Mind—we have many names we use for the unexplainable force of creation. Of course there are many millions of people who doggedly believe that “God” is an old man with a long white beard sitting on a throne off in the blue yonder, ready to punish the wrongdoers and reward the faithful. That conception was based on the image of Zeus when early Christians were seeking ways to convert “pagans” away from their beliefs in multiple gods and into a belief of their own three-in-one godhead.


When you have faith in manifestations, it means that you understand the mental process of creation: first form an image—that is always based on a desire for expansion, for joy, for more beauty—then have full faith in the process that says believe it is yours, expect it to come, and it will be yours.


We tend to falter in the “faith” segment of the creation process because of the challenge of believing in the unseen and understanding unseen doesn’t mean it’s not on the way, and that is how we end up with so many undesirable results in life. But with practice, we can and do get better and better at manifesting happy and healthy lives.

Imagination Is the Key to Success

The power of our imagination cannot be overemphasized when it comes to getting the results that we want in life. Most of us never learned about the Law of Attraction until the DVD movie “The Secret” brought it to our attention. Although the “law” is in action at all times, bringing to us whatever conditions are in harmony with our thought vibrations, we tend to think of using the law of attraction to get something specific, like a car or job or relationship. When we turn our attention to a greater understanding of the mental laws, however, we can readily see that the law of attraction is like the law of gravity: it’s “on” 24/7, not just when we focus on it or call on it to work for us.


The imagination is our key to getting the laws to work in our favor. You don’t have to be a quantum physicist to recognize the ease with which we can bring to mind a vision of what we desire, and keep imagining it long enough and strong enough that our thought image calls forth the physical image for us to experience. 


In the popular book by Maxwell Maltz called Psycho-Cybernetics: A New Way to Get More Living Out of Life, he explains the power of the imagination:


“Creative imagination” is not something reserved for the poets, the philosophers, the inventors.  It enters into our every act. For  imagination  sets  the  goal  “picture” which our  automatic  mechanism  works  on.  We act, or fail to act, not because of “will,” as is so commonly believed, but because of imagination.


A human being always acts and feels and performs in accordance with what he imagines to be true about himself and his environment.


This is a basic and fundamental law of mind.  It is the way we are built.


When we see this law of mind graphically and dramatically demonstrated in a hypnotized subject, we are prone to think that there is something occult or supra-normal at work. Actually, what we are witnessing is the normal operating processes of the human brain and nervous system.


For example, if a good hypnotic subject is told that he is at the North Pole he will not only shiver and appear to be cold, his body will react just as if he were cold and goose pimples will develop. The same phenomenon has been demonstrated on wide awake college students by asking them to imagine that one hand is immersed in ice water. Thermometer readings show that the temperature does drop in the “treated” hand. Tell a hypnotized subject that your finger is a red hot poker and he will not only grimace with pain at your touch, but his cardiovascular and lymphatic systems will react just as if your finger were a red hot poker and produce inflammation and perhaps a blister on the skin. When college students, wide awake, have been told to imagine that a spot on their foreheads was hot, temperature readings have shown an actual increase in skin temperature.


Your nervous system cannot tell the difference between an imagined experience and a “real” experience. In either case, it reacts automatically to information which you give to it from your forebrain.


Your nervous system reacts appropriately to what “you” think or imagine to be true.

Why Is Obedience Important to Success?

At first glance, many of us cringe at the word “obey” or “obedience” because it brings up instant memories of being ordered to do something we didn’t want to do, at threat of punishment or a failing grade, or a treat withheld.  However, a deeper understanding of obedience puts us into the scientific framework of quantum physics, where we can delve into the truth that we must be obedient to the universal laws or we cannot possibly get the results we want.


For instance, we know that we must be obedient to the Law of Gravity. Just because your hands are full of packages doesn’t mean you get to put one of them mid-air and expect it to stay there while you grope in a pocket for your keys. We know that, because physical experiences taught us about gravity starting about age 18 months (if you’ve ever seen a child playing the game “dropsy” where they toss food or a cup or toy over the high chair edge and watch gleefully as it drops to the ground, you’ll realize the child was learning basic compliance with gravity.)


When we want to succeed with a project, whether it is something tangible such as getting a new home or car, or something that’s a circumstance such as attracting a soulmate or money freedom, we also need to be in full compliance with the universal laws or we’ll be sabotaging our results.


In his book called Working with the Law, Raymond Holliwell explains about obedience to the laws of the mind:


The word “obey” means to submit to rule or to comply with orders or instructions. Obedience, then, is the governor of all movement whether it be mechanical, literal, or spiritual. A  giant machine without its governor would tear itself apart, would be utterly destroyed because it  failed to  obey its own laws  of momentum or gravity.


An intellectual giant who fails to comply with the laws of learning will become as an idiot. A student failing to comply with or to obey the instructions of spirit, the Law of God, will reverse that good and create evil. We are dependent entirely on obedience for our success or failure in this life.


Our societies, cities, states and nation are supported by it. Our properties and lives are dependent upon it. Because of our respect for obedience, we, as a whole, support it. But woe  unto the man who tries to break through to pillage, to plunder for selfish gain.


As we look into the home we see the mother training her child into habits of discipline. Tomorrow we see a  happy mother because her child has grown into youth and manhood and has earned success. A success because, back in the beginning of his life, the seed of obedience was placed there which brought forth respect, obedience, and unselfish thought.


On the other hand, we may see where others fail because they have been allowed to grow up being disobedient, disrespectful, and selfish.

Our Capacity for Denial Is Huge

Why do we seem to have an endless ability to fool ourselves with lies? Because we have practiced denial for so long. That is the only reason. It’s not because there is something inherently wrong with us. It’s just that we were never taught how things get stronger. Our thought habits grow more entrenched and seemingly “normal” with practice. In fact, anything we put our attention on, and energy into, will grow whether it is something wanted or not wanted.


This morning, returning from a walk in Central Park with my Golden retriever Sugar Bear, I saw a middle-aged man ambling down the sidewalk ahead of me, smoking a cigarette to the very dregs of tobacco. He tossed the lit stub into the street and began coughing, then he swilled from his coffee cup as if to stop the cough, and went into his apartment building.


Let’s imagine this conversation:


Doctor:  Sir, smoking is causing your cough.

Man: No it’s not. I must’ve picked up that cold that’s going around.

Doctor: Smoking causes cancer. You really should quit cigarettes.

Man: No worries. I’ll quit before I’m at risk.


Future scholars will marvel at our capacity for denial, as evidenced by the remnants they’ll study of our lifestyle. Pollution caused by man. Deliberate ingestion of over-processed foods and inhumanely “farmed” animals (by the way, animals don’t grow from seeds like corn and wheat do, they are sentient mammals, fish and fowl. Pet owners would never do to their beloved dogs and cats and hamsters and koi and parrots what goes on behind the scenes in the food industry.)


What are you denying in your own life? A bad relationship you put up with, out of fear that you’ll never find something better? A job you hate but stick with for the same reason?


There’s always something that we mentally push away as if it will go away if we put off dealing with it. Instead, the very pushing makes it stronger, and it begins to eat away at us inside, like a cancer.

Make a list of the incompletions, the things you know are important to take care of that you keep shuffling to the side. The more we can take care of those things, the freer we feel inside. And with that freedom comes a more enlightened and joyful way of living.



How to Relax Your Way into Manifesting Your Desires

Why do we struggle so much to get what we want? Is it really true that life is hard, and we just have to endure all the pain before we manage to enjoy even a portion of “gain”?


Actually, the truth is, humans have had a total misunderstanding of how this world, and our universe, actually works, and because of that, we’ve been stuck with a lot of rules and regulations about goal-achieving that are simply upside down and backwards.
There’s a much easier way to manifest what we want: by desiring it, and allowing it to come to us. It doesn’t mean you sit in a comfy armchair and magical manifestations shower upon you from the heavens, however it does mean that you can learn to take inspired action, the kind of intuitive choices and decisions that lead to a much smoother and more delightful path of realizing your goals.


As Abraham-Hicks explains, “No matter what it is, if you really want it, and if you get out of the way of it, it will happen. It must be. It is Law. It can be no other way. It’s the way this Universe is established. If you want it and you relax, it will happen.”

How to Increase Your Faith in Your Power to Create

Where do we get the idea that we aren’t all inherently creative? I think it’s because we’ve been taught from an early age, generation after generation, that creativity is the province of special people, and on top of that limitation, we are only talking about something visible of a high nature such as brilliant art, soaring architecture, uplifting music or breathtaking feats in the performing arts and sports.


The truth is, we create nonstop all day every day, every waking moment. We create and shape and form the substance of our lives, and we do this with our thoughts. We think about bad things happening to other people, and fear that type of thing will happen to us and our loved ones, and later on, when bad things do happen in our lives, we don’t see the connection. It’s as if we stumble through life, sleep-walking and unaware of our true power.


But all that is changing, and we have quantum physics to thank for our growing understanding that we live in an inside-out universe, meaning the thought, the imaging, comes first from within, and then manifests on the outside.


During these years of transition, as we grasp the new way of utilizing the power of our mind to create results more to our liking instead of a random mishmash that’s the result of misdirected or un-directed thoughts, it’s helpful to learn techniques and ideas for shifting our habitual thought patterns. It takes making a commitment to change, and it takes a willingness to embrace concepts that might seem strange at first.


Perhaps the hardest part for most of us it that we are simply so accustomed to going through the day reacting to what’s around us and allowing a steady stream of unmonitored thoughts to rule our power center.  Here’s a chapter from Your Invisible Power by Genevieve Behrend, which I think will help in the process of understanding your true nature, and the gift of creative power that has been yours since birth.


How to Increase Your Faith

But you ask, “How can I speak the word of Faith when I have little or no faith?”


Every living thing has faith in something or somebody. Faith is that quality of Power which gives the Creative Energy a corresponding vitality, and the vitality in the word of Faith you use causes it to take corresponding physical form. Even intense fear is alive with faith. You fear smallpox because you believe it possible for you to contract it. You fear poverty and loneliness because you believe them possible for you. It is the Faith which understands that every creation had its birth in the womb of thought-words, that gives you dominion over all things, your lesser self included, and this feeling of faith is increased and intensified through observing what it does.


Your constant observation should be of your state of consciousness when you did; not when you hoped you might, but feared it was too good to be true. How did you feel that time when you simply had to bring yourself into a better frame of mind and did, or you had to have a certain thing and got it? Live these experiences over again and again—mentally—until you really feel in touch with the self which knows and does, and then the best there is, is yours.


Did You Install a Virus in Your Thinking Program?

The fact that you’re reading an online blog gives me at least a little bit of information about you: you know how to use a computer, however rudimentary your skills or confidence level might be.  And since you use a computer, you’ve probably had windows and messages pop up now and then informing you that a certain software on your computer needs to be updated. We get used to these messages, and most of the time we simply accept the update, allow the installation to go on in the background while we keep working. Sometimes another message will pop up to let you know the update was successful. With some software programs, we’re asked to restart the computer to finalize the change.


That’s all routine, and most of us take these updates in stride because we already have the programs on our computer and we want to keep them working smoothly. What about when you want a new program, and you discover a free download online? What about the freeware that might tag along with that new download, and you don’t even realize you’ve got some pesky program running on your computer now that you don’t want and can’t figure out how to get rid of? Sometimes you might have to go online for instructions for uninstalling, or even get tech support if it’s a malicious download.


If you’ve been reading my blog or my books over the past years, I’m sure you realize I’ve set you up for an analogy.


What about all the times we are humming along, minding our own business, and get caught up in a conversation with friends or colleagues or neighbors and someone talks very strongly about how things should be done. Maybe they are vehement that this is a bad economy and your best bet is to watch your money, and be very careful not to risk any investments or even think of taking a vacation. Along with the conversation – a program that you thought was about socializing—here comes a virus: the unwanted advice to be scared, to worry, to be fearful.


If you don’t pay attention to how you feel as you go through life (and most of us were trained to totally ignore our feelings and look to outside conditions to decide if we’re happy or not), you won’t notice that you picked up a virus in your thinking. You’ll just find yourself nodding along, and agreeing that it’s a big worry of yours, too. And with that nodding, you inadvertently invite in even more virus programs to clutter your thinking and get things all balled up in your mind.


The solution: a virus cleanup program for your thoughts. Start by paying attention to the quality of thoughts you allow to flourish. If you focus on thoughts that evoke unhappy or scary feelings, those feelings end up leading you to make certain choices in life. Back to the virus about being scared you can’t make money, what if you decide to release that idea? How would it feel to be more in charge or your own thoughts and thus your life? The study of the laws of the mind leads us to make better decisions. And one of the first decisions is to choose who you hang out with. If you want to keep feeling fearful and worried about money, success and everything else important to you, then hang out with the complainers and worriers, and they’ll be happy to spread more viruses in your direction.


But if you’d like to experience joy and love and expansion and learn to attract prosperity into your life, there are plenty of people like me teaching you just how to do that.


Is Your Dream Big Enough?

Do you ever lounge around and daydream, coming up with pictures of what you’d like your life to be, relationships you’d enjoy, success you’d be happy to experience? Wait, did I just hear you snort in disbelief that I must not understand how busy you are?


We’re all busy, and we end up with lives so crowded with events on the calendar and chores on the never-ending To Do list that we barely have time to sleep let alone sit idly under a tree and think blissful thoughts. We’ve had daydreaming drilled out of us, usually about the age we start first grade, although sometimes sooner if the day care giver or pre-school teacher runs a tight ship based on old ideas of order through discipline.


But when we keep our focus on all that needs to be done, it’s far too easy to drift away from all that we’d love. And that love of life is why we are here. We’re here to experience more joy and more expansion, and we do that by dreaming up projects and ideas and relationships and events … and then we create them. The joy comes in the doing of these creative things, in the dreaming and unfolding. Not in the goal-setting and grim attention to checklists and spreadsheets and agenda books.


Here’s a lesson from a book titled Immortal Man by Neville Goddard: “First, have a dream, and by a dream I mean a daydream, a gloriously wonderful daydream. Then ask yourself, ‘What would it be like if it were true that I am now the man [or woman] I am dreaming I would like to be. What would it be like?’ Then catch the mood of the wish fulfilled and drench yourself with that feeling.”


Joe Vitale calls it “Nevillizing” a dream when we follow Goddard’s instructions. So what will you Nevillize today? What dream can you snatch off the cold back burner and light a fire under by imagining it to the extent that you fully experience all the details of how it feels, just as if it was happening now?


If you’re not sure what to pick, then start here with an intention such as this:  “Today I will allow myself to be playful and enjoy my life. Okay, I like that. Now, what would that feel like? Mmm, like joy and happiness and laughter and dancing around? Yes! And I feel it now—it feels like I just woke up on the first day of vacation and the world is smiling.”