I Dreamed Donald Trump Was Trying to Kill Me

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I woke myself out of a dream this morning.  It was just too darned strange, even for me. In the dream, I had just read the front page – having been mysteriously warned by hints in social media that I would find my name there.


And there it was! “Evelyn Brooks” appeared a few paragraphs into the lead story. It named me along with two other women whom Donald Trump had decided deserved execution.


Our capital crime? We had spoken out against him and refused to retract our statements of derision.


That’s right, in the nation founded on inalienable rights that include Free Speech, I was going to be shot (at dawn, I presume), for calling Trump “an unfit president” in my books, blogs and Tweets.


The Tweet Master was pissed.


Having been married for many years to what I thought was the consummate narcissist until Trump came into my horrified awareness when he was selected by the Republicans as their best bright boy to rule the Free World, I knew about the wrath of a narcissist.


It seemed that Trump was enraged by the remarks of a lowly woman, and an avowed, outspoken Democrat at that.


But… I had a champion (in this dream) – Rodney Dangerfield!  My late husband was a big fan of his and we had gone to see Dangerfield in person years ago (obviously when both Rodney and my husband were still alive).


Remember Rodney’s trademark line?  “I don’t get no respect!”?


So here I was, my life threatened by the biggest bully on the planet: the 45th POTUS. He has the power to annihilate all of us in one fell swoop, a scene of destruction that would far surpass the most horrific of exploding buildings and flying bodies that any Hollywood SFX team could devise, merely by ramming his Tweeting Thumbs on the Red Button in an idle moment, piqued by outraged vanity.


I can still see my dream hands holding that newspaper as I scanned the article, dreading what I would discover. I was, apparently, being accused of … something heinous … the words swam…  the way dreams shift from one seemingly logical moment to the next.


It seemed that my capital crime was rescuing a kitten.


As readers of my books know, I am more of a dog person, but I’m also an animal rights activist.


Where did the kitten come from in my dreaming mind? Last night I watched an old Jimmy Stewart movie called “Magic Town” in which the most adorable charcoal kitten — a ball of fluff wobbling on four legs — stayed the same age throughout the weeks the story represented. Magic, indeed.


We all know a kitten might symbolize innocence, helplessness, inability to defend itself against the world.


Much the way the world feels today in these days of Trump’s reckless presidency. Helpless to stop the bullies who pillage and destroy and taunt the helpless… and who tie cans to the tails of freedom.


Reading the paper, seeing I had been sentenced to death, I was… intrigued. After all, I write about the way we can nullify Trump and his ilk by getting into harmony with all that we desire to manifest, and I didn’t think I was going to manifest defeat at his hands. No way, no how.


In this dream, I knew that the moment I stepped outside my door, it would be a dark glasses moment, with all the world watching. I decided on black diamanté sunglasses and my sweetest LBD. After all, it appeared I was going to a funeral: my own.


The behavior of every tyrant – whether on the world stage or at the kitchen table – is driven by that narcissistic compulsion to be adored and feted and respected, without having to do anything to deserve such fealty, while in turn feeling nothing but contempt for everyone in his sphere.


Learn more about Trump’s extreme narcissism in Part Two “Inside the Mind of a Narcissist” in my book America’s New Breed of Freedom Fighters


I knew that Trump was just a man, but he was a man in power, and had decided that I did not have the right to live, and when a tyrant gets an idea he leaps over the process of actually thinking about such piddly things as rights and ramifications, and goes straight into demanding the result he wants: Off with her head!


Narcissists always surround themselves with people who are willing to do their bidding, for their own goals, or deluded by the charming lies a narcissist spins with such ease. Hence the various Puppet Masters who seemingly orbit around Trump’s dark star (they are not the deluded ones). Who are the deluded? The millions of Republican supporters who think it would be a terrific idea to postpone the 2020 elections until they can be positive Trump will be re-elected in the land of the free and the home of the brave.


The stars and stripes in our flag are trembling.


My dream shifted from reading the paper to being in a studio where Dangerfield was on stage. He pointed me out. The crowd yelled in excitement as I stood uncertainly.


But then he beckoned me to join him at the mic, “Come on, young lady.” I was so thrilled at being called a young lady that I flung my arms around him in a huge hug, blessing him for calling me young and whispering my age in his ear.


Rodney morphed into my late husband, who is now a very dear friend of mine since we chat now and then (albeit silently and with no witnesses but my Golden retriever) and have forgiven each other for the unhappiness of our long term marriage. It had started out in the mid-80s with such promise, as loving soul mates, but then deteriorated under the weight of his narcissistic personality disorder.


As the audience cheered, I was no longer in a TV studio. Another of those dream morphs: I was at a massive progressive rally, and I felt the LOVE. I knew that I had nothing to fear… except for fear itself.


I was going to live, to march another day.


And so I woke myself up, and began typing before I even had a piece of chocolate, realizing the friends on my Invisible Writing Team had just handed me a blog in dreamland, and I needed to capture it with digital pen and ink before it faded.


As I was walking Sugar Bear in Central Park before posting this at my site, I also realized the nightmare could have been far, far worse: I could have dreamed I’m a Trump supporter.


No worries, that will NEVER happen.


Read my Liberty & Justice Book Series on Amazon:

America’s New Breed of Freedom Fighters

What Were They Thinking?: Inside the Minds of Trump’s Voters (humor)

What Trump’s Voters Were REALLY Thinking: The Complete Report, Unedited  (humor)

When They Go Low WE GO HIGH

Inauguration Countdown Day 17 — Not My President

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While strolling Fifth Avenue in New York City to view the holiday window displays at famous department stores such as Bergdorf Goodman, Saks Fifth Avenue, and Lord & Taylor, I couldn’t help noticing all the police and police barriers around 57th Street…the location of the “Trump Tower” where Donald Trump lives.


On the opposite side of the street, a man shivered on the sidewalk in the freezing cold of the dark evening, holding up a large hand-made sign that read: “NOT MY PRESIDENT.”  And I thought to myself, Yeah, I understand where you’re coming from, but… actually he IS going to be your President, and mine, too. 


This is a democracy. We elect our leaders, and we elect a President every four years. There has never been a year where the election was called off or postponed due to bad weather or a conflict with the NFL schedule. The election is held in an even year, and the polls are always open on the second Tuesday of November, without fail. On the heels of the election, but not so immediate that it’s too swift a change–giving the incumbents time to wrap things up and move out, and the city of Washington, D.C. to prepare for the ceremony, the president-elect is sworn in on January 20th, no matter what day of the week that falls on.  It’s a 3-step process that is predictable: registered voters make their choice, someone wins, and then that person gets inaugurated for a four-year term. 


Demonstrating and holding up signs that say “Not my president” is no doubt a way of stating your opinion, but it doesn’t affect the reality of Trump’s upcoming move into the White House. 


Trump is our president now. Even though he is not the People’s Choice, he was not the winner of the popular vote, the Electoral College declared him the winner, and we must make the best of a bad situation.


Whenever a really scary situation confronts us, we have three basic choices: 

  1. Scream and yell and rant. Refuse to accept it. Stay angry and worried and stressed-out. Decide we’ll all have to muddle through somehow for the next four years and hope things magically work out.
  2. Turn away. In this case, move out of the country and relinquish your citizenship so you can truly say “Not my president” and try not to wince every time you see Trump on international news.
  3. Do something about it. 



With my new book, “America’s New Breed of Freedom Fighters,” I invite you to step up and be part of a new type of Resistance. You probably know about the freedom fighters in World War Two who were fought long and hard under desperate conditions, to help Jews escape Hitler, to speak out for freedom, to risk their lives while gaining intelligence to help the Allies, and to spread the word that they weren’t going to give up their dream of freedom for themselves and their countrymen.


We are under attack, from within our country.


Let’s not give up. Let’s not let Trump and his cronies stomp all over America with their jackboots. If you voted for Trump or you don’t understand what the big fuss is all about and think Democrats are just being “sore losers,” I urge you to look deeper into what is going on and what kind of man Mr. Trump is.


Trump is transparent about being an extremist with a hate agenda, but for dyed-in-the-wool Republicans, they probably never saw those “sound bites” on the TV channels they watch or learned about his actions in the newspapers and radio stations that censored such information. Maybe they even believe he finally turned over his tax returns (he didn’t–narcissists don’t have to follow the rules because they believe in their inherent superiority to the rest of us) and that he’s being hounded for no reason.


Lest you think I’m an alarmist, take a look at what’s going on already with Trump’s selections of white supremacists and right-wing extremists to be key players in his inner circle, as well as the smoke-and-mirrors efforts of Republicans to push through secret agendas while the nation is distracted by the holidays.


Enough about what we don’t want. You know what’s going on. We’ve got a challenge ahead of us. Together, we can picture progress and growth in America and for the rest of the world, too, and with the powerful energy of the law of attraction, we can manifest those positive mental pictures into reality. Start now, start today. 


Affirm: “My goodwill is a strong Tower around me. I now change all enemies into friends. All inharmony into harmony. All injustice into justice.” — Florence Scovel Shinn


I’ll get into all of this in greater detail in my new book America’s New Breed of Freedom Fighters—coming on Inauguration Day. 

America's New Breed of Freedom Fighters book cover

Are you in? Okay, then put aside the panic, breathe mindfully, and realize this is an incredible opportunity for all of us to “fight” for the freedom and justice we desire.  More to come in the rest of this blog countdown to Inauguration 2017, and in my new book which will be released that day:  America’s New Breed of Freedom Fighters: With Liberty and Justice for All

 Pre-order now on Amazon at:  http://bit.ly/NewBreedFreedomFighters


New Book: Six Secrets for a No-Fault Marriage

New Book: Six Secrets for a No-Fault Marriage

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Do you wish your marriage could be more loving and fulfilling? Are you single and wish you could attract a new marriage or loving relationship into your life? We attract to us what we magnetize in our thoughts–and this little-known secret is the key to having happy relationships and a thriving romance. In this condensed book you’ll learn SIX SECRETS to creating and enjoying a wonderful marriage or partnership with your beloved. This book will also help you learn how to prepare yourself to better understand the dynamics of intimacy so you can attract the soulmate you are yearning for.  BONUS GIFT: readers of the book get access to a special collection of harmonious MP3 music. You can stream the music from your device or download the album–there are 10 MP3 tracks and all are soft instrumental melodies.  I suggest you play the music as a soothing background while you expand on the process of stabilizing your marriage…and then growing it into a joyful relationship. Get the book exclusively on Amazon: CLICK HERE


I wrote this book to help you not only learn from my own mistakes and life lessons when it comes to romantic relationships, but to share the laws of the mind that I now understand could have helped me back then. Most of us plow our way through relationships with little or no information about how to actually create lasting love and trust.


Read this book in about 90 minutes, and start creating change in your life right away! I deliberately made the book a condensed read so you won’t find a lot of stories or analogies. I wanted you to be able to jump right in, grab the information and a new understanding, and begin at once to attract more love and harmony into your relationship.


Does it have to take years of painful confrontations to discuss what is wrong with your marriage and set about with grim determination to fix it? Only if you believe it takes years! What if you could resolve the issues that are causing blockage, strife and pain in your relationship – starting tonight?


You CAN have the ability to radically transform your marriage and your entire life when you learn the secrets to taking quantum leaps. Stop trying hard to make things work between you, and start allowing the power of your desired outcome to pull you effortlessly into a more joyful and harmonious relationship.


In this volume of the “Born to Triumph — Start Living Your Greatness” rapid results book series, you’ll shortcut all the old ideas for “fixing” what is wrong in your relationship and create a new environment with your spouse that allows love and joy to flourish. By the way, this volume is dedicated to my mentor and teacher, the incomparable Bob Proctor.


Get started now, while you’re ordering the book, and state your intention to heal your marriage or to get ready for your soulmate if you are single: “I release the past to the past, I allow pain and dissension to float away like dark smoke, and I create all the love and joy I want to experience NOW in my life!”  Get the book exclusively on Amazon: CLICK HERE

How to Stop Stressing over Money

How to Stop Stressing over Money

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I took an informal survey to find out what most people are stressed about these days–and it’s no surprise to me that the #1 answer is MONEY! Small business owners worry how they are going to meet payroll and vendor bills, parents worry how they will afford their kids’ education or their own retirement, entrepreneurs worry how they will replace their previous income while building their new business, and everybody seems to be worrying how to enjoy life when they can’t seem to reach their money goals. 

Ready to step into a life of abundance? My Home Training Program “Be Healthy Be Rich” will show you how EASY it is to enjoy more of what you desire. CLICK HERE 

Chronic stress affects everything in your life: your relationships, your job satisfaction, your health, and your sense of personal fulfillment. It’s important to find ways to get your stress level down to a manageable level, but usually when someone is filled with anxiety, and the bills are piling up, it can be hard to consider that relief could be just a thought away. However, that is true, and the reason is that we become what we think about. The more you think about your money worries, the more worries will flood to you, because they are in harmony with whatever your focus of attention is, and you attract more of the same.

There’s a way out, and it’s a simple three-step process that you can practice right now, use as often as you’d like, and share with family and friends. Here’s what you do: 

  1. Breathe in slowly through your nose to the silent count of four, then hold your breath to the count of four, and slowly exhale through your mouth to the count of four. Your stress hormones will settle down instead of firing up even more panic. Repeat a few times until you feel a bit calmer. Understand what you are seeking is a sense of relief so that your mind is open to the next step in this process.
  1. Bring to mind the outcome that you desire. Perhaps there is a specific amount of money that would bring great relief to you at this time. Imagine how it would feel if that money was in your bank account, and that even after paying the bills, there would be a delightful surplus of funds available to you. How would it feel? Did your shoulders just drop a little? Maybe you didn’t even realize how tensed you’ve been, and how tightly you’ve been holding your body. Shake your arms, wriggle around, signal your body and mind that change is coming. Keep that feeling of relief in your thoughts and bask in how wonderful it feels now the money stress has vanished.
  1. While holding that feeling of relief, and visualizing yourself smiling at your employees or coworkers and enjoying a few high-fives because you have turned a financial corner, consider an action step you can take in the next five minutes that will lead you toward your success. It might be making a phone call you’ve been putting off because it felt uncomfortable and you worried how the other person would react to you. Go do it now. Successful people make it a habit to do the things they know must be done, even when they don’t really want to do those things. They put the success of the business or project first, and step into the required action. That means, whatever is on your list that you’ve been avoiding even though you know it’s important, contains the seeds to the success and money freedom you desire. But nothing will happen if the bright ideas just stay on paper and never see the light of day. 

When you are stuck in a worry and stress mode, that zone of fear will keep you paralyzed. Use the three steps above, take an action, keep visualizing your success and feel it as being real. Think of what you want, not what you don’t want. That’s the key to changing your results.


Stop Trying to Control Every Outcome

Stop Trying to Control Every Outcome

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Most of us learned an upside down and backwards approach to life–we learned to look around us and pay attention to what everyone else is doing and saying, and then react to that.  We are now learning a much better way of living, from an inside-outward perspective, but it takes a commitment to your own happiness. Why? Because the training is so deeply ingrained in all of us to think the old way that it is habitual. We learn to set goals and work hard and keep our noses to the grindstone, and try our very best to force the results we want.

Here’s an easier and more delightful way: get very clear on what you want, align yourself with the feeling that it is already true in your life, and allow what you desire to flow into your life.

Yes of course it takes practice and persistence. But it is worth it–YOU are worth it. If you’re ready to start living a life that feels joyful and satisfying, learn the 5 steps for your quantum leap in my book YOU WERE BORN TO TRIUMPH: Create a Five-Start Life in Your Quantum Kitchen.


Is Something Missing in Your Life?

Is Something Missing in Your Life?

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If you’ve ever woken up and groaned softly to yourself, thinking not-so-kindly about the day ahead, then there’s something important missing in your life–and I think I know what it is…

Passion for your own journey!

If your thoughts revolve around the household, the job, the family’s needs…the chores to be done, the errands to be run, the schedules to be kept as orderly and organized as possible–then you are missing out on the key ingredient of a joyful life. Passion.

Yes, that’s the missing link for many people, because from early childhood most of us were taught things like “Be practical,” “Think it through before you make a decision,” and even things like “What will the neighbors think if you do that?”

If you learned to play it safe, I’ve got good news for you: you  can ditch the old rule book starting today, and begin truly living a life that is bursting with satisfaction, fulfillment, and personal growth. Why is growth important? Because without it, you’ll stay stuck and the only thing in the world that doesn’t strive for growth is an old rock that’s stuck in the mud of a river bank.  Everything else around is is growing, striving to expand, to create more Life.

Parents, a special caution for you, because if you’re moaning and groaning about your life, what is the lesson you are teaching your children? Unfortunately, you’re modeling behavior that they’ll probably imitate later on, even if they make a conscious decision to do otherwise. Remember all the times when you were a teen and vowed “I’ll never be like my parents!” and then as you got older, married, started a family, those trigger points were hit like a hot button, and you reacted from your old training.

There are over 400 articles at my site, and lots of products and e-course programs I’ve created, so I hope you’ll look around and enjoy a new perspective on your life.

If you’re ready to start creating big quantum leaps in your life and zoom ahead to happier results, believe that you can do it. I know you can!


I Believe in You

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Have you ever wished for someone in your life who completely and unconditionally believed in you? Someone, who, no matter what bright idea you had or what you had done that wasn’t your best, always had your back? Always smiled and saw the “real” you who is capable of so much?

Most people never have that kind of relationship with anyone. We live in a society that rewards snide remarks and cutting comments with a laugh track on TV sitcoms. Where one-upping someone by being nasty, rude, or curt in return is considered an acceptable way to put people in their place and not let them walk all over you.

The person who comes to my mind as someone who always believed in me and thought I was just great no matter what I was up to over the years, was my Aunt Anne–my mother’s sister.  Now, Anne has been gone many years, but I have a wonderful memory bank overflowing with all the times she was supportive. I didn’t see her very often, because we never lived in the same state, let alone the same city, but despite the lack of e-mail and texting back then, we managed to have a very special relationship. Perhaps it was actually helped by that “distance” in that she wasn’t my parent, or someone so closely involved in my daily life that she couldn’t remain objective. Often we need that clear eye of someone who loves us, cares about us, wants us to be happy and healthy.

A specific incident with my aunt was many years ago, at my brother’s funeral. My family was living in Texas (where I was born) and she flew from Utah to be with us after he died. During the funeral mass, I happened to be standing next to her, on her left-hand side in the church pew. As if it was just moments ago, I can feel the pressure of my little hand in hers as I clung to her for strength.  Flash-forward at least 40 years, and she commented one time during a Thanksgiving dinner when several family members had gathered from various states to be together, and she said to me and my three older sisters that she recalled the funeral and that one of us had squeezed her hand so tight that she knew it was really important not to let go.  I admitted that hand-squeezer had been nine-year-old me.  She had been a lifeline for me during that hard time, and continued to be someone who believed in me completely, up until the moment of her own death many years later just before the turn of the century into 2000.

In case you don’t have someone like that in your own life–someone who never raises their voice, never criticizes, condemns, mocks or undermines you–I want you to know that I am here for you. I see greatness in you. I know that you came here with a huge purpose in your heart and soul: to create more love, joy, and expansion in the world by thinking up ideas and then bringing them into reality with the incredible power of your emotionalized thoughts.

with love,


PS By the way, a story I wrote about a different incident at my brother’s funeral is featured in the new anthology “Unwavering Strength: Stories to Inspire You Through Challenging Times.”  Don’t buy it now. Wait until Sept 30 for the launch so you’ll get a massive array of gifts from the co-authors and supporters of the project.

How to Reduce Stress: Improve Your Sleep Health

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Sarah Jones

Please help me welcome our Guest Blogger, Sarah Jones, who is sharing natural tips on how to get a better night’s rest.








How to Reduce Stress: Improve Your Sleep Health


Stress is the main cause for a sleepless night.  Stress factors plague us daily and heighten our anxiety which can cause precious hours of sleep to escape us at night. This can quickly turn into a vicious cycle as less sleep can lead to more stress, which then in turn makes sleep difficult again. To nip this in the bud we need to focus on improving our sleep health.


Sleep and Why We Need It

Sleep is one thing we all need, whether it be a few hours or several hours, our bodies need time to rest and recuperate.  Sleep helps our systems restore as well as improve our cognitive abilities during the hours we are awake.  Non-REM and REM are two states of sleep that each of us need as well.  Non-REM is considered a deep sleep and in order to feel fully rested, we must reach this stage of sleep each evening.


Stress Versus Sleep

Stress and sleep are conflicting states that do not support or welcome each other.  Stress can be accrued throughout the day, increasing and decreasing depending on the stimuli in our lives.  Stress is counterproductive to sleep, and many of us toss and turn because anxiety from our stress has disturbed our ability to decompress and relax.  Both stress and anxiety can be dealt with in healthy ways to help us relax and let us sleep.


Tips For A Restful Sleep

One of the most suggested tips for achieving better sleep is to avoid the use of electronics around bedtime.  Many of us tend take our iPad, laptop or smartphone to browse through social media before calling it quits for the day.  The brightness of the screen(s) and mental stimulation increase awareness and actually promote a more “awake” and distracting atmosphere which detracts from a restful evening.


Another key factor to reaching that restful night is to avoid caffeine.  Caffeine can dwindle in our systems for much longer than many of us realize, so enjoy that cup of coffee in the morning, but avoid caffeine in the hours before its time to sleep for the night.


Caffeine isn’t the only liquid you should avoid before sleeping.  Alcohol is a popular drink in the evenings and often used as a “night cap.”  Alcohol can initially help us fall asleep, but it has consequences that may arise after the first few hours of sleep.  Alcohol causes people to wake more often due to restlessness as well as to relieve a full bladder.  This beverage too should be avoided in the evenings in the hours before bedtime.


To further reduce stress and achieve more restful slumber, you can actually promote rest with a few specific food items.  Milk, halibut, avocados, eggs, walnuts, potatoes, bananas, and oats all encourage the body to rest.  Keep in mind that overeating will keep you up at night as will heavy meals.


Exercising is not only beneficial for your physical state, it is beneficial to your mental state as well. Exercising daily helps relieve insomnia, according to the WebMD and studies that have been conducted.  Exercise affects us differently, so if you are more alert after exercising, it is best to do so in the morning.


Relaxation exercises done before bed can also help lower stress and anxiety levels.  According to Dr. Michael Breus the “Sleep Doctor,” breathing exercises are an excellent way to achieve a restful night.  Dr. Breus suggests getting into a comfortable position and inhaling for 4 seconds, then holding your breath for 7 seconds.  After that, exhale for 8 seconds, making it a long, slow exhale.  Completing this exercise a few times before bed can help lower your heart rate and blood pressure.


Dr. Breus also encourages the Progressive Relaxation technique.  This exercise can be done as part of a nightly ritual to ease tension and to encourage relaxation.  Starting with your feet, tense and relax the muscles in them, slowly working your way up to your head and neck, progressively tightening and untightening all your muscles.  Focusing on the areas that hold more tension are those that you carry stress on the most. Relaxing these muscles will encourage better rest at night.


Trying one or all of these techniques can help increase relaxation and benefit us in a good night’s sleep that is restful, not wakeful.  This exercises and tips can be done throughout the day or whenever you feel stressed.


Sarah is the Editor of Sleepy Deep. Feeling the repercussions of being an irregular sleeper for far too long, she decided to do something about it. She learned why sleep is so important and how to maximize it, and is now helping others who are struggling to find their right sleep routine.


Common Mistakes People Make When They Offer Condolences

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My special guest blogger today is Suzie Kolber, who is an expert in coming up with just the right words we can all use when we wish to offer words of sympathy to bereaved friends and work associates. Sometimes it can be a real challenge to say something other than a cliche or platitude, and so I know you’ll enjoy Suzie’s ideas for how we can be more supportive during those unsettling and precarious times everyone encounters in life.

Here’s her article:

Common Mistakes People Make When They Offer Condolences

Talking to someone who has just lost a loved one is never easy. In fact, many people avoid the situation by staying away or sending a generic card. They are afraid of saying the wrong thing. While there is no one right way to offer condolences, there are a few mistakes well-meaning people often make. Learn from others so you don’t make the same errors.

Saying “It will get better.”

While you know the person won’t always feel like they do right now, telling them so only trivializes their feelings. Instead, you want them to know it’s okay to feel this way. You have no idea how long it will take for their heart to mend and for them to feel like resuming life again.

In place of telling someone to cheer up or that they will feel better in time, you may say something like “I’m here for you if you need to talk.” This lets the person know they don’t have to pretend to feel better if they don’t.

Trying to cheer them up

Everyone moves through the stages of grief at their own pace, and you can’t hurry it along. If the person is feeling sad, they don’t necessarily want you trying to make the smile or laugh. They may not be ready to move forward with their daily lives because it feels like they are leaving the deceased person behind.

You don’t want to avoid talking about the person who passed away because it may actually make them feel better. Hearing stories about that person from your point of view may be the healing they need. And you might be surprised to find it does cheer them up. While you may not enjoy talking about sad things, forcing conversation on superficial topics because they are happy or neutral won’t ease the person’s pain or make them forget about their loved one.

Pretending nothing has changed

Many people feel awkward talking to the loved one of someone who died. They aren’t sure what to say, and so they try to avoid any mention of the person. They will talk about the weather, what’s going on at work or other normal stuff. While this may be helpful, don’t purposefully avoid talking about the person who died.

The family member knows they are gone, and they will feel the silence as you struggle to avoid mentioning the person. Instead, mention them as it feels normal. Talking about the person is one way the loved one has of keeping their memory alive. Don’t be afraid to talk about serious and sad subjects. Ignoring them won’t make them go away, and the discussion can help the person deal with their emotions.

Knowing the right thing to say can be difficult, but knowing what not to say can be even harder. Just know that if your heart is in the right place, the person will understand what you can’t find the words to say. Your presence means more than any words, so don’t avoid interaction with the family just because you aren’t sure what you should say to them.

Suzie Kolber is a writer at Words of Condolences



Inauguration Countdown Day 1 — Take the Oath

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In America, we vote for our president every four years, and after the election, the power of that office is transferred non-violently to the incoming President-elect, unless the current administration was re-elected (maximum of two terms).


As stipulated in an amendment to the US Constitution, the President and Vice President are sworn in at noon on January 20th in the year following the election.


Various traditions are upheld on the day of the president’s inauguration. It is always held in our nation’s capital, and takes place outside instead of behind closed doors. Citizens are welcome to witness the ceremony and the informal parade as long as space in the streets permit, and as long as they retain order and self-discipline.


The incoming President, Vice President and their immediate families arrive at the Capitol steps by car, and customarily walk part of the way to wave and interact with the crowds lining the street. On the evening of the swearing in ceremony, inaugural balls are held throughout the city of Washington, D.C.


The ceremony itself is brief, and consists of both the president and the vice president taking a solemn oath, as directed in our Constitution:


Oath of Office for President of the United States

US Constitution, Article II, Section 1


Before he enter on the execution of his office, he shall take the following oath or affirmation: “I do solemnly swear (or affirm) that I will faithfully execute the office of President of the United States, and will to the best of my ability, preserve, protect, and defend the Constitution of the United States.”


The Constitution established the national government and its fundamental laws, while guaranteeing certain basic rights for its citizens, which at that time were the white adult males of the population. The current oath of office was passed by Congress in 1884, changing the wording somewhat, and is the same oath that Members of Congress take.


When we take an oath, it is a special moment.


In times of danger in our society, ordinary citizens can perform an arrest, which, not surprisingly, is called a “citizen’s arrest.” The practice dates back to medieval times and allows citizens to hold a suspected felon even without the official right to do so.


If you’re a fan of classic television comedies you may remember the episode in The Andy Griffith Show where Deputy Barney Fife (Don Knotts) tickets Gomer Pyle (Jim Nabors), and in retaliation Gomer places Barney under citizen’s arrest for making an illegal U-turn. “Citizen’s arrest! Citizen’s arrest!” If you haven’t seen it, the clip is on YouTube and is considered one of the funniest episodes of that long-running series set in small town America.


If we can perform a citizen’s arrest under extraordinary conditions, then why can’t we take a citizen’s oath as well? These are indeed extraordinary, perilous times, when Donald Trump’s election feels more like we’ve landed in The Twilight Zone than Mayberry, RFD.


Are you ready to be one of America’s new breed of freedom fighters? Are you ready to put your commitment into words and turn the weakness of wish power into the boundless “yes, we will” power? Do you want to help create progress, liberty and justice for all?


If so, then please place your right hand over your heart and say these words: “I [your name] do solemnly affirm that I will create more goodness, more love, more joy, more kindness, and more expansion in my own life, and help others do the same.”


My new book America’s New Breed of Freedom Fighters is now available. Thank you for taking this blog journey with me for the past month leading up to the inauguration of Donald Trump as the 45th President of the United States.

God bless America—keep us safe from all harm, foreign and domestic.


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Are you in? Okay, then put aside the panic, breathe mindfully, and realize this is an incredible opportunity for all of us to “fight” for the freedom and justice we desire. 


Inauguration Countdown Day 2 — Love Trumps Hate

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Power Tip of the Day:  Open your heart to love and forgiveness.

Forgiveness can feel like we’re being weak, like we’re saying “Oh, yeah, no big deal that Trump played a very dirty game and won even though Hillary had the popular vote.” It can feel like we’re being asked to say it doesn’t matter what Trump and his campaign did to manipulate fear throughout the world, and to rile up rural Americans nostalgic for a trip back in time to the nasty days of white supremacy where “faith” meant believing in a vengeful God and it’s okay to put the Christian injunction to “Love thy neighbor as thyself” on hold while you hate anyone who looks different from you and doesn’t attend the same church.


In an article I read years ago about Dorothy Bridges, the actress and poet who was the wife of Lloyd Bridges and mother of actors Jeff and Beau Bridges, she was quoted as saying that she raised her children to understand if they ever felt a challenge in believing in “God” to simply add another “o” to the word…and believe in “Good.”


We can all understand and relate to “good” and we can state an intention to create more of good and less of its opposite, and to hold our elected officials to the same standard.


We can’t hold grudges and also profess that we are transmitting love in response to hate.


“When they go low, we go high.”– Michelle Obama, First Lady


The process of forgiveness is actually a simple one. It involves letting go of the thoughts and feelings that you have clutched to yourself with rage, anger, resentment, and wishes for vengeance. Wherever you feel those negative emotions, it’s an indication that forgiveness will free you from that slavery to hatred.


Release the anger. Release the desire to get back at the person or organizations who have hurt or upset you. Let go of your grim determination to make someone pay for what they’ve done.

Stop looking in the rearview mirror of life. Instead, free up that energy to create good, harmony, and growth.


Transmuting fear into love is a powerful process. This goes for all issues where there is strife in our lives, not just this election debacle. 


When we open to allowing love to flow and goodwill to flourish, we become aligned with the emotional vibrations of joy, peace, bliss, happiness.  And in that alignment, we find our true power to create our desired results.


On the other hand, when we hang onto vengeful thoughts or the angry rehashing of events, we stay chained to emotions that, by virtue of the laws of our universe, can only bring us more things to feel angry and resentful and upset about.


Here’s a trick to making forgiveness more palatable: you’re taking the high road, you’re taking a superior position over the “you” who has until now been less aware of your own thought activities. Congratulate yourself on being willing to grow.


Once you gain the forgiveness habit, I think you’ll discover, as I did, that it makes life so much easier and more congenial to let the anger go and focus instead on what you are doing today and how you can be of service to others.


If you feel challenged to forgive and understand friends and family members who voted for Trump, take the important step of making love more important than politics. Calm your breathing, get still within, and ask for help in being a channel for universal love. Remind yourself that in one hundred years, all of us who participated in Election 2016 will be long dead. Don’t allow the anger over the election to spoil the rest of your life, don’t let it harden into bitterness or hatred. Remember always that love trumps hate, because love is of a higher nature than hate and fear and worry.


Send compassion to people who voted for Trump, and realize they followed their own hidden beliefs that are obviously fear-based in nature. They are a dying breed. As our world evolves, and the mental laws are more freely and readily understood, more and more individuals will transition upward into a greater level of awareness. People like Donald Trump will never be allowed near positions of power.


We can let go of them now, without sharing in their narrow Old Worldview of struggle and domination, of control and fear.
“When we come to see that Thought is a force —a manifestation of energy —having a magnet-like power of attraction, we will begin to understand the why and wherefore of many things that have heretofore seemed dark to us….When we think we send out vibrations of a fine ethereal substance, which are as real as the vibrations manifesting light, heat, electricity, magnetism.” — William Walker Atkinson


Here is something else to consider about loving others, in spite of their opinions and behavior. When we try to make the other person or group wrong, the natural reaction on their side is to push back and prove that they are right. That clash can quickly escalate into angry shouts (and Tweets).


The higher road is to understand everyone has the right to their own opinion. We can turn away from what we don’t want and pour our mental energy into what we do want to create. It’s amazing how much freer we can feel when we stop pushing against something undesired. Even though at first it may seem the only logical recourse that we have, that isn’t true. We have far more power when we take inspired action for what we want, than when we angrily push against what we dislike or fear.

From adventures to explorers to people seeking greater freedom and prosperity – America has ever sounded the clarion call as the land of opportunities. Let us take full advantage of the freedoms we have: the right to free speech, the right to vote, the right to get a job and be paid for it, the right to create your own business and set your own prices, the right to live where you desire without discrimination, the right to life, the right to due process of law, the right to the pursuit of happiness.


Many rights and freedoms are at risk due to Trump’s election. Get involved now and let’s keep moving forward  in service to the greater good.


I’ll get into all of this in greater detail in my new book America’s New Breed of Freedom Fighters—coming on Inauguration Day. 

America's New Breed of Freedom Fighters book cover

Are you in? Okay, then put aside the panic, breathe mindfully, and realize this is an incredible opportunity for all of us to “fight” for the freedom and justice we desire.  More to come in the rest of this blog countdown to Inauguration 2017, and in my new book which will be released that day:  America’s New Breed of Freedom Fighters: With Liberty and Justice for All

 Pre-order now on Amazon at:  http://bit.ly/NewBreedFreedomFighters


Inauguration Countdown Day 3 — Be a Freedom Fighter

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During World War II, “fifth columnists” were people the Nazis could count on to help Hitler’s gaping maw gulp down yet another village, city, or country. Fifth columnists lived and worked in those towns, usually having been born and raised there. These collaborators secretly worked with the enemy from within the targeted region. The first “four columns” meant the advancing formation of soldiers in four military columns, grimly marching in lock step. So, if you were known as a fifth columnist, it meant you were a traitor to your own country, and you aided and abetted the enemy either for monetary gain, power and favors (such as getting more food and fuel than the average villager), and sometimes because you also believed in the values the enemy proposed.


A collaborator can be seen as someone who is more interested in what they can gain than in what they can do to help their fellow citizens in times of great need. They look for the easy way out, the door to riches and power over others, and they turn their backs on social issues that help their country. 


Is any of this beginning to feel familiar about what we face today? As they say, history repeats itself, but the only reason it does is because we continue thinking the same outworn thoughts about struggle and lack and limitation, and we have failed until now to systematically access the power of the subconscious mind to create the results we want.


If we align our thinking with Trump’s hate agenda and get on that low level vibration with him and his cronies, we inadvertently become fifth columnists, helping to undermine and destroy the very freedoms we wish to defend and protect.


During the American Revolutionary War that resulted in the colonists’ breaking away from the rule of King George III of England (and yet eventually becoming Allies and at times BFFs), the colonists who remained loyal to the King were called Tories or Loyalists or Whigs. As a whole, the colonists and American’s eastern shore had considered themselves “Englishmen,” but a big thorn in their side was the lack of representation in Parliament that all Englishmen (meaning white adult males) expected as a God-given right. Trouble kept brewing and boiled over into a battle cry. Further attempts to create harmonious relationships with the implacable King were abandoned in favor of revolution.


It was totally illegal to align yourself with the freedom fighters of 1775-6. Totally. I mean, like, you could be shot for this, because basically the colonies were owned by Great Britain and the King did not look kindly upon an uprising across the pond. I’ll let you discover the details of our fight for independence on your own. I just wanted to be sure to point out that being on General Washington’s side was not your immediate ticket to an easy life of sitting by the fire and toasting a scone while sipping tea from a dainty cup. 


It was scary, it was dangerous, it required a firm belief in the high stakes of freedom.  And meanwhile, back at the ranch, you had to be careful around your neighbors and villagers who remained loyal to the King.


I have been a bookworm all my life.  Before the advent of ebooks, you could always find me near a stack of books bristling with notes, and I still enjoy having several books in progress at any given time. To me, books are comfort food and my first refuge.


When I was growing up, we went to the library on a regular basis and I always came home with an armful of mysteries and historical fiction to dive into. One of my favorite book series was for middle-grade girls involved a heroine who was a Patriot girl about age ten or twelve, and who had a dangerous mission to perform in total secrecy, such as smuggling a crucial message to General Washington. I adored those adventures! At the time, I didn’t even know that I was actually a Daughter of the American Revolution, although not a member. One of my sisters discovered that fact years later when doing a genealogy search about our family history.


Perhaps an angel perched on my shoulder those years ago while I was thrilling to the tale of Patriots, and whispered in my ear: “One day, when you are grown up, you will write a book to help a new kind of freedom fighter in America.”


So let’s see exactly what’s different about being a freedom fighter today compared to being on in World War II or any other great conflict where the stakes were high. We have it easier now, because from the safety of our homes, we can reach the entire world. We don’t have to print pamphlets in a hidden room and risk our lives to distribute them. We just tweet and our message is instantly heard around the world.


Mr. Trump used social media to lambast the globe with hatred and lies and promises of his idea of “greatness.”


Now let’s turn around that mis-use of a wonderful tool and instead of hammering people over the head with hatred, use the “hammer” of justice to promote progress in all areas of our society not just for a favored few. 


How can you become one of America’s “new breed” of freedom fighters? Instead of printing a few dozen leaflets in a back room and furtively passing them around, we have the incredible power of instant communication around the world via social media. Let’s use technology in a positive way to share messages of hope and liberation, of freedom and justice.


The new resistance fighter doesn’t needs weapons, doesn’t need to skulk in the shadows. The new activist is someone who sees something going wrong and is willing to help. I think there’s confusion surrounding the idea of peaceful action, or of nonviolent demonstrations. It doesn’t mean you’re weak. It doesn’t mean sitting calmly and letting someone be abusive to you. It does, however, mean learning about the laws of the mind and thus understanding how to activate a sense of indifference toward the rants of people like Donald Trump and his cronies. When we are indifferent to a negative force, it will cease to exist. Our attention to it, our desire to push it away, those feelings and actions just make the negative grow stronger. 


What exactly is a new kind of resistance fighter? Using the law of attraction to neutralize Trump’s plans for America, together we can achieve constructive progress instead of being the victim of expensive plans that favor the wealthy and that promote an agenda of hatred for anyone Trump disfavors.


There are so many things you can do to support progress as you go about your daily life. Although it would be wonderful if you felt called to support your favorite issues and get actively involved in supporting those causes, you don’t have to leave your house to help.


Join us in the frequency wavelength of love and expansion that circles our globe. It’s invisible, but it’s there, and all of us can access it by simply inviting in feelings of peace, light, and calmness.


When thoughts pop up that make you feel agitated or fearful, dismiss them as you would a mosquito or gnat. You don’t have to get out a cannon and angrily rant at a gnat, now do you? Of course not.


But when someone like Donald Trump strikes fear into the hearts of so many millions of people around the world, it can feel like only something “big” could possibly combat his agenda of hatred.


Not true. Love trumps hate, and you can start with love in your daily life. By doing so, by adding to the energy of love in the world, you help neutralize the negativity of Trump’s proposed agenda. He cannot win, he cannot dominate, he cannot appoint himself emperor unless we stand back and allow it by energetically aligning with the fear that rules his behavior.


When a classic narcissist such as Donald Trump gets in power, it can be terrifying indeed to listen to the rants, to watch the enraged facial expressions, to hear that fury in his voice.


Pause and put aside your anxiety–listen for the two-year-old in Trump. You’ll hear him, having a tantrum. And you will find it much easier to look away, and to stop inadvertently empowering him by being afraid and letting him call the shots.


It’s odd, but we progressives must essentially act like the loving parent to Donald Trump and set firm limits so he doesn’t destroy all of us with his out-of-control demands for walls, for deportation, for eliminating women’s affordable access to cancer screening and reproductive health care, and so many other issues he intends to stomp beneath his boots.


Perhaps his voters had already decided they would vote Republican no matter who the candidate was, even if they felt distaste when he revealed his opinion that it’s okay to grope women, it’s okay to make racist slurs and it’s okay to deport people based on their religion. They voted for him anyway, even when he bragged he doesn’t have to pay income tax, and even when he refused to make his tax returns public. They had a belief inside that a Republican would be better than a Democrat, and that belief punched the voter ballot.


Some Republicans, of course, voted for Trump because they are racist, they hate women, they don’t want anyone of color to have advantages, they want wealth for themselves and find glee in sticking it to the middle class in as many ways as possible. Their mentality is me-first and ignore the rest of the country.


Other Republicans were unable or unwilling to look past the paid ads and sound bites that glorified Trump as some sort of business wizard who would help the economy. They didn’t look past the glitter and bombast to the man beneath the self-wrought tinsel crown. 


Trump enjoys taking hostages. Our trained beliefs—installed by parents, teachers, society we live in – dictate our behavior. If you’re tired of being held hostage by Trump’s constricting definition of who you are and what you are capable of achieving, then activating an understanding of the laws of thought will free you.  


Pause for a moment when you feel frustrated about Trump’s supporters and their inexplicable desire for things to revert to what they consider the “good old days.” Think about when you were in high school and played with a small child or sibling. Perhaps you did some babysitting for the neighbors. From your higher perspective about life and relationships and the subjects you were studying at school, you weren’t at the same level as the little children. It didn’t mean you took a superior stance or tried to shame or scold them for their lack of awareness of geometry while they were struggling to handle multiplication. 


In a similar vein, it can be liberating to realize that everyone alive at this time is helping humanity move forward.  We are ever evolving upward. We are never going backwards even if it sometimes might seem that way.


The people who cling the hardest to old ways actually give motivation and impetus to those of us who are on the leading edge of change. We are the “tip of the arrow” thinkers as some people put it. We are the ones willing to keep pushing for progress.


And we can’t back down. Trump will be in office for 1,461 days. Let’s state our intention now that we will use these four years wisely to gain a firmer stronghold in grassroots community efforts for progress, that we will help get out the vote not just for the presidential election in 2020 but for local and state elections, too.


Together we can and will continue to make a positive difference for our country and our allies.

I’ll get into all of this in greater detail in my new book America’s New Breed of Freedom Fighters—coming on Inauguration Day. 

America's New Breed of Freedom Fighters book cover

Are you in? Okay, then put aside the panic, breathe mindfully, and realize this is an incredible opportunity for all of us to “fight” for the freedom and justice we desire.  More to come in the rest of this blog countdown to Inauguration 2017, and in my new book which will be released that day:  America’s New Breed of Freedom Fighters: With Liberty and Justice for All

 Pre-order now on Amazon at:  http://bit.ly/NewBreedFreedomFighters


Inauguration Countdown Day 4 — Advance Confidently

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From this point on, the choice is ours: do we move forward, or do we collectively allow fear to mire us in the mud of inaction? It’s not enough to be “against” what Trump proposes and has already begun putting into effect. We progressives must be for what we want, and use our thought energy in a much more powerful way than we have up until now.


Decide now what you want. Make a list of the issues and principles that are most important to you. Write about the big dream you have for your life, that “thing” that will bring you satisfaction and a sense of a life well-lived. If you don’t have that dream yet, take time to reflect on what you enjoy doing the most. Our hobbies and interests always contain the seed of our greatness. The reason you are drawn to sports, for instance, could be that you have an inner dream of helping others be better athletes by coaching a local team as a volunteer, inventing a new improved fabric for athletic clothes or shoes, or creating a mobile app that allows fans to track their favorite teams.


In my ecourse called “Unstoppable Confidence” I share lessons on how to go deeper into developing healthy self-confidence so that you can achieve both short-term and long-term goals in your life.  Here is an excerpt from the course workbook:


Imagine you’ve reached the end of your life and – as a friendly spirit – you’re eavesdropping at your own memorial service. You nod with satisfaction as you hear the recounting of all the good you did during your journey on Earth. There’s even some good-natured ribbing over mistakes you made in a well-meaning way while learning and growing. You laugh along with the listeners as the person at the podium recounts a few anecdotes that really bring your life into full flavor.


ASSIGNMENT: Write your own eulogy NOW!




This tool is valuable for identifying the major achievements you most desire to accomplish in your lifetime.  It points out the holes where you need to pay more attention to what is important to you, and underscores the values that you hold dear.


Instead of rushing through this with a few quick comments about what a nice person you were and how much you’ll be missed, take time to do this exercise with care. You will find it helpful to use as a visionary document that can be a “map” to guide your action steps from now on.


And, of course, you can keep revising it as the years pass and you accomplish more and more of your big dreams for expressing yourself fully in the world with all of your gifts to humanity such as kindness and caring.


Earl Nightingale is known as the “Dean of Personal Development” because he was not only a popular radio personality, author and speaker on the topics of human character development, he was the first to create home study courses that were recordings. Prior to that time, you could get written course material mailed to you, but no one had thought of preparing and mailing a vinyl record so that students of the course could feel they were in the room with their teacher, and listen to the lesson again and again, thus retraining their thought habits and inculcating the lesson material. He was co-founder of the world-renowned Nightingale Conant personal development company. Nightingale defined success this way: “Success is the progressive realization of a worthy ideal or goal.”


Notice the two key words: “progressive” and “worthy.”  So let’s put aside any comments that might come to mind about Donald Trump’s seeming financial success which he created with the perverted tactics of an old-style robber baron, and instead focus on how we can progressively move forward with plans that are worthy of fruition and bring value for the greater good of all.


Dr. Joseph Murphy reminds us, “Decide now to make your life grander, greater, richer, and nobler than ever before. Within your subconscious depths lie infinite wisdom, infinite power, and infinite supply of all that is necessary, which is waiting for development and expression. Begin now to recognize these potentialities of your deeper mind, and they will take form in the world without.”


It is only when we really focus on constructive goals that we can be part of the magic of manifesting true progress in our society.  The powers of the mind are neutral and therefore can obviously be used to bring about recession, unemployment, and other ills.  So let’s keep our attention on creating more good in the world, both for ourselves and our families and for society as a whole. 


Murphy goes on to say, “In order to change external conditions, you must change the cause. Most men try to change conditions and circumstances by working with conditions and circumstances. To remove discord, confusion, lack, and limitation, you must remove the cause, and the cause is the way you are using your conscious mind. In other words, the way you are thinking and picturing in your mind. You are living in a fathomless sea of infinite riches. Your subconscious is very sensitive to your thoughts. Your thoughts form the mold or matrix through which the infinite intelligence, wisdom, vital forces, and energies of your subconscious flow.”


Donald Trump and his camp followers manipulated the world with fear and hatred just the way a war general stirs up the populace in favor of aggressive action and restrictions of those who are “different.” Trump targets the female majority of this country with threats of punitive restrictions of access to affordable care and reproductive health screenings. He successfully agitated so much fear in the hearts of listeners that people who were against his plans inadvertently poured the energy of fear into his campaign as if their emotions were attached to a funnel empowering him.


That’s not science fiction, it is science fact. Our thoughts are all connected. We are not Borgs, however; we all have our independent minds. But when we are accustomed to making choices based on reactive emotions, without understanding the power of our thoughts, we create results collectively that we would never wish for if we knew what we were doing.


Think again about your own life, and the direction you are going. Are you advancing, or are you sliding backwards, or are you at a full stop? Are you following your big dream, or just following the money from paycheck to paycheck?


We are all deserving of prosperity in every area of our lives. Wealth isn’t a problem by itself, it’s what people do with the money once they have it, and how they get it in the first place. 


If you bring the world a better product or something that is of service and makes money, that’s terrific! Becoming successful with a worthy ideal will bring you satisfaction and a sense of fulfillment along with the abundance and financial freedom.


Just following the money without consideration for your core values and what you are aligning your soul with, may bring you material goods and all that money can buy, but without that satisfaction of living your dream, that type of financial success will not bring you happiness.


Do you want to remain safely on the sidelines and be a bystander for the next four years? Or do you want to take action on behalf of the issues that are most important to you?


It doesn’t mean having to go march on the White House or picket Congress. It doesn’t mean donating money, although of course you are welcome to donate to your favorite organizations such as those supporting environmental protection, feeding the hungry, educating the overlooked.


Did you know that our embarrassingly high illiteracy rate hasn’t improved in many years? 32 million adult Americans cannot read. The last thing this country needs is making education even harder for people to access. But Trump doesn’t care about that—it’s a line budget item he intends to sacrifice to make way for other things such as tax cuts for the super-wealthy.


You can continue to tell yourself things like: I feel so tired all the time, I’m really stressed out, this project (family, house, job, economy) is going to be the death of me!




Start a new trend in your life with self-chat that is far more empowering and delightful such as, I really feel energized by this new project, I feel relaxed and happy, I know that everything is working out for me and I’m right where I planned all along.

Begin today. Choose the commands you give to your subconscious mind, which is the driver on the road of your life.  


Affirm:  Every day in every way, I advance with confidence in my heart, to help create more good in the world.

I’ll get into all of this in greater detail in my new book America’s New Breed of Freedom Fighters—coming on Inauguration Day. 

America's New Breed of Freedom Fighters book cover

Are you in? Okay, then put aside the panic, breathe mindfully, and realize this is an incredible opportunity for all of us to “fight” for the freedom and justice we desire.  More to come in the rest of this blog countdown to Inauguration 2017, and in my new book which will be released that day:  America’s New Breed of Freedom Fighters: With Liberty and Justice for All

 Pre-order now on Amazon at:  http://bit.ly/NewBreedFreedomFighters


Inauguration Countdown Day 5 — I Have a Dream

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We the Peaceful have the opportunity to stretch and grow, to become bigger than we were before, to expand beyond the point in history where we are now, instead of retreating to lick our wounds.


When we access the power of the universe, when we plug into progressive ideals, then our motivation to improve life works with that power the same as plugging a lamp into a socket. We come alive! We light up! We feel joyful and energized.


Let’s imagine future historians are looking back on the aftermath of Election 2016. What will they report? Will they say there were strong ongoing protests to Trump’s agenda and his nominees for the cabinet, and the progressives held him accountable?


Will they say that we never gave up? That we kept moving forward with our dream for all that this great country can be? Will they praise the progressives for refusing to be rattled by the threats of an extremist?


Years ago, in the early days of the Civil Rights movement to gain freedom for people of color in our country, Martin Luther King, Jr., whose birth we celebrate today, commemorated by a  national holiday in his honor, delivered a speech on August 28, 1963 in Washington, D.C. as part of a nonviolent march on the capital. The initial title of his speech was “Normalcy, Never Again” but due to his repetitive use of the phrase “I have a dream” that became the name of this, his most famous speech.  Dr. King was assassinated less than five years later.


These words are excerpted from Dr. King’s “I Have a Dream” speech:


“In the process of gaining our rightful place we must not be guilty of wrongful deeds. Let us not seek to satisfy our thirst for freedom by drinking from the cup of bitterness and hatred.

We must forever conduct our struggle on the high plane of dignity and discipline. We must not allow our creative protest to degenerate into physical violence. Again and again we must rise to the majestic heights of meeting physical force with soul force.”


If we worry that it’s going to be too hard to fight Trump and neutralize his extremist agenda,  or that it’s hopeless anyway, so we might as well hunker down and wait out his term, then we are becoming part of the problem in our nation instead of standard-bearers in the realm of solutions.


When we abandon disempowering thoughts, then we create space in our hearts and minds to harness the energy of the universe and use it to manifest the results we want.


Affirm:  “I do not resist this situation. I put it in the hands of Infinite Love and Wisdom. Let the Divine idea now come to pass.” Florence Scovel Shinn


I believe in the cardinal virtues of a true statesman:


> Self-control

> Capacity for listening to others and considering new ideas

> Ability to compromise

>  At ease with himself

>  Deeply spiritual and aware of a power greater than himself

> Desire to be of service to others

> Healthy ego, acts like the parent on an airplane, taking care of his own oxygen need first in order to be of use to his children

> Compassionate and kind

> Self-discipline

> Soft-spoken and well-mannered

> Even-tempered

> Interested in other people’s point of view


At every time in history when oppression reigned there have always been freedom fighters and resistance movements. The weight of fear and the inertia of despair caused prolonging of tyranny, but eventually we as a race always move upward into a higher level of awareness and freedom. The bondage of fear keeps us entrapped. Instead of titling my next screenplay “Nightmare on Pennsylvania Avenue” I’d rather write that dreams do come true when we work together and focus on progress.


Here is the dream I have for our country:


I dream of a nation where our leaders and citizens work together to create greater good for all.


I dream that we the people enjoy and expand our material wealth and enjoy a healthy and vibrant social structure that allows all individuals to prosper and to express their natural gifts.


I dream of a time when everyone lives in peace and harmony, having abandoned the old ideas that we must compete against each other in order to survive and struggle to afford the bare necessities. I dream that all schoolchildren learn how to use the laws of the mind and have ready access to all the support they need from their local communities and states, and at the federal level too, in order to fulfill their destinies and create more love and expansion in our great nation.


Peace in our time? Yes it is possible. If we want it enough, we can create peace. However, it won’t come by decree from outside of us. It starts within, in our own hearts. Releasing your emotional reaction to Trump’s election is the first place to start. Replace it with a sense of calmness and surety that all is working out, and together we will indeed triumph.


“This one simple change—seeking and finding peace within—could, were it undertaken by everyone, end all wars, eliminate conflict, prevent injustice, and bring the world to everlasting peace. There is no other formula necessary, or possible. World peace is a personal thing! What is needed is not a change of circumstance, but a change of consciousness.”  Neale Donald Walsch, from The Complete Conversations with God


We fly our nation’s flag at half-staff (some say “half-mast”) as a sign of mourning, such as on Memorial Day in honor of our war dead, on the day before and the day after a member of Congress dies, and by proclamation from the President as well as from the Governors of individual states. The proclamations include the specific days for the flag to be at half-staff, and when the flag should be returned to full-staff, sometimes from sunrise to sunset on the same day and sometimes to be lowered to half-staff and not be returned to full-staff until a week later.


On Wednesday November 11, 2016, the day after the presidential election, I noticed that the American flag atop Belvedere Castle in New York City’s Central Park was flying at half-mast. No doubt it was a “coincidence” and there was an official reason for the signal of grief. But it seemed a providential coincidence indeed.


Over half the voters of America were in deep mourning, shocked and dismayed that our fellow citizens would actually elect a reality TV show host known for his utter disregard for the rights of others to be President of the United States. As a whole, it seems that Trump’s party is deep in anger and they want to spread it around as much as possible. I’ve been attacked (via email and social media) for writing my countdown blog and writing this book. Seriously? You can’t tolerate a writer who is offering stress relief to others?  


A signal of dire distress: flying the American flag upside down. 


Let us do everything we can to be sure we never need to display that signal.

I’ll get into all of this in greater detail in my new book America’s New Breed of Freedom Fighters—coming on Inauguration Day. 

America's New Breed of Freedom Fighters book cover

Are you in? Okay, then put aside the panic, breathe mindfully, and realize this is an incredible opportunity for all of us to “fight” for the freedom and justice we desire.  More to come in the rest of this blog countdown to Inauguration 2017, and in my new book which will be released that day:  America’s New Breed of Freedom Fighters: With Liberty and Justice for All

 Pre-order now on Amazon at:  http://bit.ly/NewBreedFreedomFighters


Inauguration Countdown Day 6 — Reprogram Your Paradigm

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A paradigm or mindset is a collection of thousands of beliefs we hold hidden in the deep recesses of our minds.


It’s akin to the idea of a complex software program that is installed in our minds in early childhood and continually updates itself with new data and evidence that makes each pattern within the program either stronger or weaker.


For instance, you may have learned at age three from watching a sibling that it is funny to stir all your food together on your dinner plate before eating. For a while, you did it too, until the game wore off or you realized you didn’t like your food mushed together. That’s a simple example of changing one’s mind.  


You may also have grown up in a family where there was a lot of sarcasm and belittling, where your ideas and dreams were mocked or discounted, and without knowing you were doing so, you formed a belief that you’re not worthy of joy or love or happiness. But as your life progressed, you got so tired of feeling that way about yourself and you looked around and realized there was information available to help you change your self-image. And you decided to take the task seriously, and steadily move toward your goals. Now, each time you slide back into thinking thoughts of discouragement, you catch yourself and replace that with a feeling of “Yes, I can” gumption.


In my opinion, we greatly need an overhaul of our collective paradigm about the power of our thinking.


While walking through Central Park during the writing of this book, I heard two men on the path behind me talking about Meryl Streep’s speech at the Golden Globes ceremony the previous evening.  Golden Globes are awards bestowed by members of the Hollywood Foreign Press Association. During her acceptance of the Cecil B. DeMille Lifetime Achievement Award, Streep asked the press to hold Mr. Trump accountable now and in the future, citing his well-documented mocking of a disabled news reporter. 


Here is part of Meryl Streep’s speech:


“They gave me three seconds to say this, so: An actor’s only job is to enter the lives of people who are different from us, and let you feel what that feels like. And there were many, many, many powerful performances this year that did exactly that. Breathtaking, compassionate work.

But there was one performance this year that stunned me. It sank its hooks in my heart. Not because it was good; there was nothing good about it. But it was effective and it did its job. It made its intended audience laugh, and show their teeth. It was that moment when the person asking to sit in the most respected seat in our country imitated a disabled reporter. Someone he outranked in privilege, power and the capacity to fight back. It kind of broke my heart when I saw it, and I still can’t get it out of my head, because it wasn’t in a movie. It was real life. And this instinct to humiliate, when it’s modeled by someone in the public platform, by someone powerful, it filters down into everybody’s life, because it kind of gives permission for other people to do the same thing. Disrespect invites disrespect, violence incites violence. And when the powerful use their position to bully others we all lose. O.K., go on with it. [She was being prompted to speed up.]


“O.K., this brings me to the press. We need the principled press to hold power to account, to call him [Trump] on the carpet for every outrage. That’s why our founders enshrined the press and its freedoms in the Constitution.”


Now, let’s go back to the two men talking behind me in Central Park. What drew my attention to their conversation is that I heard one of them say, “Okay, so he played a dirty game and he won but now he’s the president and Meryl Streep had no business mocking him.”


In other words, now that Trump has won, we are supposed to accept whatever he does because he is the president, and if you hold up his behavior to the light, you are the one doing the mocking?


The words that man spoke reveal his paradigm:  he believes that being president gives Trump a free pass to do and say what he wants, and it is unreasonable to hold him accountable.


What can we do about such thinking? We can’t force people to change. Change has to come from within each of us in order to be real change and not just a surface compliance with what someone more powerful than you has decreed.


No one can think our thoughts for us.

No one can feel our feelings for us.

No one can create the pictures in our minds for us.

No one can take our actions for us.


But we can be pushed and goaded—and if we haven’t learned to disconnect those buttons and are hot-wired to react, then that other person does indeed call the shots.


Want to be a free agent instead of a puppet on a string? Learn more about using the law of attraction in your life. Understanding is the key to lasting, beneficial change in our lives.


For change to be effective, each individual must want to experience better results in life than what they now realize is their limiting set of beliefs about their abilities and self-worth, and they must be willing to try new things and open up to new ideas. 


When someone tries to force change on any of us, no matter how well-meaning, we always resist. Think about all the times your parents scolded you to stop being messy or to change a certain habit they labeled as bad—didn’t you dig in your heels and become more determined than ever to hold onto the behavior or belief that was seemingly under attack?


Let’s not waste energy on trying to change other people’s minds and opinions. We’ve got more than enough work to do in mastering the laws of the universe so that we can attract the greater good we progressives desire for our country, even with a misogynist and racist in the White House.


Charles Haanel  (1866-1949) was a New Thought teacher whose books remain popular today  with those studying personal development. Below are eight lessons that Haanel offered as part of his “Master Key System” to help us better comprehend the universe we live in and the mental power we all are born with.


  1. That much gathers more is true on every plane of existence and that loss leads to greater loss is equally true.


  1. Mind is creative, and conditions, environment and all experiences in life are the result of our habitual or predominant mental attitude.


  1. The attitude of mind necessarily depends upon what we think. Therefore, the secret of all power, all achievement and all possession depends upon our method of thinking.


  1. This is true because we must “be” before we can “do,” and we can “do” only to the extent which we “are,” and what we “are” depends upon what we “think.”


  1. We cannot express powers that we do not possess. The only way by which we may secure possession of power is to become conscious of power, and we can never become conscious of power until we learn that all power is from within.


  1. There is a world within a world of thought and feeling and power; of light and life and beauty and, although invisible, its forces are mighty.


  1. The world within is governed by mind. When we discover this world we shall find the solution for every problem, the cause for every effect; and since the world within is subject to our control, all laws of power and possession are also within our control.


  1. The world without is a reflection of the world within. What appears without is what has been found within. In the world within may be found infinite Wisdom, infinite Power, and infinite Supply of all that is necessary, waiting for unfoldment, development and expression. If we recognize these potentialities in the world within they will take form in the world without.


Once we learn that there are specific rules that control the results we live with each day, then we gain access to the power of creating more joy, freedom, justice and prosperity for all.

I’ll get into all of this in greater detail in my new book America’s New Breed of Freedom Fighters—coming on Inauguration Day. 

America's New Breed of Freedom Fighters book cover

Are you in? Okay, then put aside the panic, breathe mindfully, and realize this is an incredible opportunity for all of us to “fight” for the freedom and justice we desire.  More to come in the rest of this blog countdown to Inauguration 2017, and in my new book which will be released that day:  America’s New Breed of Freedom Fighters: With Liberty and Justice for All

 Pre-order now on Amazon at:  http://bit.ly/NewBreedFreedomFighters


Inauguration Countdown Day 7 — What You Can Do

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On January 20, 1961, the first Catholic President of the United States took office. In his Inaugural Address, John F. Kennedy shared his vision for our country and the world we share with billions of other people. His speech included these memorable words:


And so, my fellow Americans: ask not what your country can do for you — ask what you can do for your country.


“My fellow citizens of the world: ask not what America will do for you, but what together we can do for the freedom of man.


“Finally, whether you are citizens of America or citizens of the world, ask of us the same high standards of strength and sacrifice which we ask of you. With a good conscience our only sure reward, with history the final judge of our deeds, let us go forth to lead the land we love, asking His blessing and His help, but knowing that here on earth God’s work must truly be our own.”


It’s easy to read inspirational messages such as the excerpt above, but not always so easy to follow the advice given. What exactly can we do for our country? If you are one of the 65,844,610 Americans who voted for progress and Hillary Clinton’s platform, you may be feeling too sucker-punched to do anything more than sign petitions to hold Donald Trump accountable for his actions and his extreme right-wing nominees, and demand the release of his income tax returns (Mr. Trump: “I don’t pay income tax—I don’t have to!”).


But there is always something we can do, and when we individually do good things on a regular basis, then steadily we uplift the collective vibration of our nation to the frequency level where good things can continue to be attracted into our experiences.


In one of Agatha Christie’s mysteries, Murder at the Vicarage, her famous sleuth Miss Marple says, “For sheer primitive rage, commend me to a thoroughgoing humanitarian when you get him well roused.”


Let’s harness the power of our rage and make a commitment that we won’t back down to the Trump administration. Together, we can be well-roused directly into righteous action.


“The horror of the Hitler Experience was not that he perpetrated it on the human race, but that the human race allowed him to. The astonishment is not only that a Hitler came along, but also that so many others went along.” ― Neale Donald Walsch


It is never too late to begin creating change, and moving towards a better way of living. When we create progress for ourselves, we can’t help but create it for others at the same time, because we are all connected.


It is the misuse of power that produces tyrants and bullies—they don’t know how to share and they don’t want to learn. They strut through life, heedless of how many others they trample and destroy, but they will not escape scot-free. Perhaps it appears they will not get any “payback” but the soul memory will always be there and they will have to reconcile the damage they cause against the potential they had for creating greater goodness instead.


We choose our lives. We create them with our everyday actions, those small decisions and the larger ones as well. Primarily, we build up our life resume in the way we act under stress.


We’ve seen how Mr. Trump handles stress. He has a hair-trigger temper, and is volatile. But that doesn’t mean we have to react to everything he does, because in our reactions we become puppets, leaping at his command. A narcissist thrives on that kind of control, where by a mere glower, he can make others scurry into action.


He cracks the whip, and we’re supposed to stampede toward the slaughterhouse? I don’t think so. Don’t play into his hands by becoming fearful of what he’ll do next, or anxious about what is to come. Even though worry seems like a sign of caring, actually it is a misuse of our incredible powers of creation. Your attention to him increases his power.


If you were in a train wreck, once you were stabilized physically and had helped others in need, you would probably do your best to salvage what you could of your luggage and belongings. And then you would rebuild your life from that disaster. You wouldn’t feel that the accident had to define you from that point forward. It’s unlikely you would look at the disaster and decide you might as well make it total, so why bother to salvage anything. You wouldn’t pick up a sledgehammer and destroy what was still standing or useable, or toss your suitcase over the nearest bridge.


And yet with a shock like the 2016 election results, it can feel so devastating that it seems life will never be the same, just as if we were indeed in a virtual train wreck, and one where instead of ending, the destruction is going to continue at the hands of the very person elected to supposedly guide the country toward prosperity and security as our Commander-in-Chief.


In writing my book America’s New Breed of Freedom Fighters, my intention is to create a safe and empowering landing space for everyone who feels hurled out of their normal orbit by the election of a hate-based extremist to the highest office in our country.


About 13,000 years ago, hunters from northeastern Asia crossed the Bering Land Bridge (which no longer exists, having melted) and entered what was later called “North America.” From that time forward, this land we call the United States has been a magnet for explorers, adventurers, prospectors, those seeking freedom of religion and personal expression, and many others seeking opportunities to build better lives for their families and friends.


In my own family, we have two precious letters written in 1862 by an ancestor who was the wagon train secretary on the way to Utah, having come from England to Kansas, and then across the Great Plains. The letters were to his parents back in England, and described the same sort of thing we would write home in such a situation: a wagon wheel broke and they were delayed in the fixing of it, a little girl fell in a stream and was drowned, they were looking forward to reaching their destination.

Today, we are so used to our instant communication that it can be difficult to think of waiting months if not years to hear from our loved ones who have set off for far off lands.  But what about the far off lands of our imaginations? Can we travel there while taking a walk in the park or relaxing beneath a favorite shade tree? And when we imagine what we want, can we bring back those ideas and by picturing them strongly and steadily, make them materialize for the growth of our country?  Yes, yes, yes.  Yes, we can.


We are faced with a challenge: if Trump gets his way, walls will be built, people will be deported according to their skin color and religion, and the back of the middle class will be broken by financial burdens while the super-wealthy celebrate their tax breaks. That’s just a short list. I don’t want to depress you by listing the whole array of devastation he has planned for the environment and just about everything else you could think of. This man is such an extreme narcissist that all he sees is a bigger opportunity to inflate himself with power.


Ask yourself what you can do to help this country survive the next four years—not only to survive Trump’s administration but to thrive in spite of him and his cronies.


Allow the question “What can I do?” to settle itself quietly in your heart. Walk around with the question, get curious about the feelings you have when you think about getting more involved in your community and in issues of importance to you. You’ll recognize the answers, because you’ll feel warm in the region of your heart, and you’ll know that, perhaps for the first time in your life, you’ve discovered the purpose you came for.


For years I have been coaxing my readers and clients to get their emotions up on the Joy Channel, to tune in to that feeling of joy even before it arrives so that you are in harmony with everything you want. All the good things are of a higher finer vibration—loving relationships, fulfilling work and hobbies, vibrant health, financial abundance, and a wealth of creativity. By being grateful and happy in advance, the law of attraction brings us those happy experiences.
Keep your focus on positive change, and when you do, the ideas for what you can do next will begin flowing…and will continue to come into your life on the wings of love and hope.







I’ll get into all of this in greater detail in my new book America’s New Breed of Freedom Fighters—coming on Inauguration Day. 

America's New Breed of Freedom Fighters book cover

Are you in? Okay, then put aside the panic, breathe mindfully, and realize this is an incredible opportunity for all of us to “fight” for the freedom and justice we desire.  More to come in the rest of this blog countdown to Inauguration 2017, and in my new book which will be released that day:  America’s New Breed of Freedom Fighters: With Liberty and Justice for All

 Pre-order now on Amazon at:  http://bit.ly/NewBreedFreedomFighters