Be-Happier Tip: be kind, rewind

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Are you in a relationship? Before you answer, remember that you have relationships with neighbors, friends, coworkers, people at the dry cleaners and grocery store you frequently go to, as well as with family members and your “significant other” if you have one.  Too many times, the idea of “relationship” makes people instantly think of a love match and if they’re not in a “romantic relationship” they say: No, I’m not in a relationship!

But this weekend, be aware of all the various relationships you have on an ongoing basis. Take a look at the kind of person you are in each case, and ask yourself if you are so stressed about life that you take out your frustration on other people around you.

Instead of continuing the stressed and acting-out type of behavior, that leads to more stress and unhappiness, follow these 4 simple steps to make a difference in your life starting right now:

  1. Decide what kind of person you want to be in each relationship
  2. Become aware of your body language when you are around other people
  3. Listen to your tone of voice and the choice of words you use — are you snippy and short? Do you choose to use sarcasm to make your point that your life is not a happy one? Do you talk down to people? Be honest about this or you’ll stay stuck
  4. When you realize spoke in haste or didn’t say what you truly were wanting to say from the heart — REWIND!  Say, I’m sorry, let me say that again. And then think before you speak, weigh your words as if they could be weapons – because they are. They can be weapons for good and inspiration, or weapons for pain and resentment.

You’ve got a lot of power – use it wisely.

This weekend, take time to say what you really mean even if you have to back up (rewind) and start over. Use these 4 steps outlined above, and let me know how it works for you.

your happiness guru,

Evelyn Brooks


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