The word “enabling” has gotten kind of a bad rap over the years, since it started being used to describe an unhealthy interaction where one person allows or enables the other one to continue with sick behavior such as alcohol or drug abuse. Being an enabler meant you were not standing up for what you believed in, and felt helpless to change anything about the relationship.
But enabling can also be a good thing! Think of the teacher who enables (allows and encourages) a student to fill out the forms for a college scholarship application. Or the boss who enables an employee to make more money through profit-sharing based on the value they bring to the company and not just the hours they work.
Take a look at your relationships. If they are stressed out and unhappy, if you have deep-seated resentments against the other person (or people!) the root of the problem could be that you’ve fallen into the trap of the unhealthy type of enabling.
And if you are arguing all the time with your mate or significant other, that behavior can hide what is really wrong, and until you get that issue out into the open, the pointless arguments will continue.
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